aibu to be over sensitive? and should that matter?!

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Dh is a twat. Very rarely gives me compliments and often says things in a jokey way, like I smell like poo/ I haven't cooked him dinner when I have (hes just eaten it all) etc. Its like having a child. It grates on me terribly, really frustrating. I've told him, he thinks its funny.
This morning it was 'you haven't fed the cats' which I hadn't but I was rushing to work and we were in the kitchen at the same time. I lost my temper, told him to stop being a twat. His response was I need councelling!
So I've emailed him an irate email whilst at work. Asked him to stop. Hes replied ok.
I'm sure I am being over sensitive but he really does get to the point where it hurts my feelings, how can I get that through to him?
And surely he should care that hes hurt me? I know its a joke but after a while it starts to get to me and I'm feeling down about it. Advice on how to get through to him when basic 'please dont' and explaining why doesn't work!

Yeah regularly email during the day, not allowed phones at work. Surely that's not too weird?!

Don't worry about whether or not emailing is weird, that's entirely your choice OP. Stay on the thread!! You're not too sensitive, that sort of crap daily would probably have pushed me over the edge by now. I have always been told I'm too sensitive. I recently confided in a friend this and she now uses it as an excuse to be a bitch to me as if I try and say anything she says I'm being mental. So she is basically doing the same. So not really a friend then.

A friend doing it must be hard, especially one that you've confided in. It's basically bullying isn't it. Hes been v nice tonight tho!

Yes over time I am now realising that none of this is friendship, I am her chimp, while she endlessly reminds me about her real friends. Oh well, live and learn. I suppose you need to do the same about your relationship too as that sounds like bullying too. He's basically telling you you're stupid?

I know he his. But I hold the cards when it comes to the kids, the house etc so I spose its his way of controlling. Not making excuses, I just kinda get it.

I would make comments (I mean jokes, of course....) about his erectile issues, underwhelming sexual performance and his micro dick in public and see how over-sensitive he becomes.

sonlypuppyfat if I do not email DH I forget everything that I wanted to tell him!

It's not a joke if you don't think it's funny.

Sit him down and ask him
to explain why he, as a man who is meant to love you, continues to make "jokes" which you not only find unfunny but actively distressing?

The answer is presumably because he thinks they are funny.

The problem is therefore not that you are "over sensitive". The problem is that he is being an arse. Deliberately apparently.

See I've never worked in an office neither has my DH so no access to a computer

Mention his:
Fat belly
Thinning hair
Tiny penis.

Then say oh I was only joking. If he says its not funny then you can say neither are your jokes.