Spending V day with the ex!

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So my ex and I get on really well and my daughter and I both stay round his place every other Friday (she stays on her own there on the sat) and also the odd week night as well, last week I asked him if we could stay over one night next week as i'v booked her into a half term workshop and he lives closer, he said yes so also booked my car into the garage at the end of his road for that night! Now he has decided the day before, that we can't stay!
He has been seeing someone for a little while now but never talks about her and hasn't even mentioned her to our daughter, now the problem is the night I asked to stay over is valentines day (I didn't really think about it at time of asking as I'm single lol ) i'v checked and they haven't booked any where so would just be staying in, aibu to be pissed off that he has changed his mind at the last min?? Meaning I'm going to have to do a lot of "bussing" late at night and early in the morning with our young daughter or aibu to want to stay over on V day???

The daughter stays over on Saturday nights on her own, and is doing a half-term workshop. So she's not that young.

I think your ex is right to not talk to you much about his girlfriend.

It's not a sign that she's not important to him, it's a sign that he is keeping separation between different parts of his life.

You not staying at his house is a natural progression, and I'm surprised it hasn't happened sooner.

It's a shame that it's happened as a last-minute change rather than a proper discussion.

Christmas Day is a bit different though, as it's so often all,about the children.

Valentine's (British traditional version) is all about romantic love ie coupledom and so I can quite see why it's not a time for exes to make a facsimile of family.

He's usually reliable, what Op was asking for was a bit rubbish anyhow, and this is one to just let pass.

And now her DD is able to stay with her father alone, I agree with posters who say it's best to moving towards that being the norm.

Yabu. I can imagine how much I'll talk about my boyfriend to my daughters father, very, very little. Because it's weird to do otherwise imo.

It's totally inappropriate for you to be sleeping over at your ex's - you are giving your daughter very confusing messages. By all means be a united front and have family time but you need to have boundaries!!

If he hasn't told her you sleep over don't you think that says rather a lot?