To to wonder that was

[mydshines]

About 18 months I went to the local pub with a friend. Amway I remember chatting to a nice guy who is way older but I have a thing for older guys.
We had a great chat but my friend got very upset suddenly (nothing to do with me but she had an argument with someone.)
So she told me let's go and we left abruptly. And being the dutiful friend I did however I never did got his number or anything.
Anyway this weekend I was out shopping in a different town and I went to a lArge store that sells a lot things. Anyway the store manager kept approaching me and kept asking questions anyway I was a bit rattled as I wasn't not looking my best as was shopping with my man friend. Who needed the items. He asked me where I worked. Where I lived. I was a bit puzzled.
We started chatting again due to a lovely item. And we had a lovely conversation at the end of it the man nice chatting to you Mary my name. I was WTF. Because I remember not giving him my name and then when I asked him he blushed. He didn't say when or where. Which really annoyed me. But in a good way . Anyway I racked my brain who could it be and he was the logical person.
Am I aibu to suggest that anyone that can remember my name is their something more to this. And also aibu to go back to the store on my next day off looking all glammed up with my sister to see if there a spark or what. I take my sister as a Cover so I won't look all desperate asking to test the beds lol
I on a high after this brief encounter
I'm really happy all weekend

It seems odd that he didn't just say, " Hi, I meet you in the pub a while ago, do you remember? Wasn't your name Susan?" and go from there.

All this game playing and discussing random shop items is bizarre.

In the nicest possible way, your sister could be right. You can't even be sure this is the same man but, don't pin everything onto this because as I said earlier, he could have just been pleasant.
I work in a bar and I've had a few men who take me being polite as that I'm interested. So just be careful Incase this doesn't work out the way you hope

Good luck though

Thanks all. I appreciate all advice. Haha I never thought of that less attractive. Well even it's just it was a polite exchange at least at best I practice my flirting skills it be a long time I have done that. And with my sister being there I won't look like a saddo by asking for advice on beds lol

Well an update. I bite the bullet and took like a bus and a walk. I knew I looked plush as I met my old neighbor who said I looked great.
Anyway my sister left me down so I went in to the shop alone. I felt sick as he was there I spoke to him. I asked him who did you know me he and where at this pub. He said no. He. Can't remember as he goes to pub. So after like 5 minutes I went to say bye we had s brief chat. But in all honesty I still think it was him. And I don't think I be returning to the shop. For a long time.
But when I told my sister and she howled with laughter.
And thinks that I have lost the plot.

In all honesty as bad as I'm feeling right now about it. I'm glad I did it. Because the old me would have just shy away. My last relationship was with a guy that withholding sex and making me feel so bad for it.
But was sending love s on girls facebook accounts and talking to his ex. He knew that would have been the end of us and it was.
I was so long that I felt this excited especially with Valentine's Day.
It made me realize how much I want to be wanted
So I don't regret it if anything I glad I got it out of my system.

Has he grown an entirely different head in the last 18 months?

I don't get how you don't know if he's pub man or not?

They was specific information that he gave me. I just remember that that he worked at this certain place and other stuff. I don't know maybe he is in a relationship and doesn't want to complicate it I don't know.

He also told me in the pub he had an accident while he was in Mexico and it was serious and it cost him X amount. And when I was in the shop I mentioned to him we were talking about insurance and he gave me advice like always get health insurance as this what happened in Mexico I still feel silly about the day I don't know it was awkward

Also he was about the same weight, height age, face I know it was him they are other stuff swell. I honestly thought they were a reason I remember at the time I just felt connected and even in the shop that I was chatting to him I felt the same experience.

Maybe, as you say, mydshines, he's in a relationship and he happened to mention to his OH that he saw you again and she (or he) put their foot down about inappropriate chat?

Don't let it make you feel down though. He's back pedalled for whatever reason, but there are plenty of other nice men out there!

Thanks hun. I was in 2 minds to update this thread. As I felt a bit embarrassed. But I hate when the ops don't update their threads. Actually it's been good for me as I air it out. I think I more annoyed that I know it was him. And anyway I put it behind me. But yeah I reckon he bAck peddled to. I just hope so about a man as I realize how I miss any feelings

It will happen for you, just don't try to force things.

Getting all dressed up and turning up at a basically unknown man's workplace so you can chat him up was a bit too try hard.

I think you blew up the chance encounter in your head into a full blown fantasy love at first sight scenario! but I think you realise that.
Don't beat yourself up though, laugh about it and move on.

Get out, enjoy life, socialise and be yourself and you'll meet someone who likes you for you.

I actually agree about that . You could have not explain it better. And you know what my sister rang me this morning laughing about it. And I laughed too . I'm going to see a medium/fortune teller in too week s so maybe she may provide some insight

Glad you're laughing about it now. You sound very sweet. Seeing a fortune teller isn't something I'd do but good luck.