To hate my dp for saying this?

[Kaylasmum49]

I've been ill for the past week with flu, starting to feel better now but have had a headache for about 4 days now.

My relationship with my dp is not good at all but he's surpassed himself today. I was saying to my 13 year old dd about my headache when my dp said "Maybe it's a brain tumour"! We'd had a few cross words earlier but that was finished with.

I have severe health anxiety and have been going through a particularly hard time for the last 6 months with it. Every day is a huge struggle and I do my absolute best to keep it hidden from my dc's but unfortunately my dd has anxiety and some of it surrounds health. The look on her face when he said this was awful. I feel like shouting and screaming at him but obviously I have to stay calm.

Am I over reacting?

I think your kids would prefer a happy Mum. I am sure you could sort something out about childcare.

He is mocking you with the tumour comment, it is perfectly normal to have a headache when you have the flu, temp. dehydration it will pass.

Annoyed, I don't think he is worn down as I don't really discuss my anxiety with him anymore as he has never been helpful or supportive at these times.

Unfortunately he has a habit of saying things that will have maximum impact and usually where he knows my vulnerabilities lie. I've been on antidepressants for 13 years now and if we have an argument he'll often say "have you taken your tablet today" like I'm being unreasonable for no reason.

You might find if you dumped him a lot of your anxiety issues improve. it won't be easy but he's not exactly lightening your load, is he?

if we have an argument he'll often say "have you taken your tablet today" like I'm being unreasonable for no reason.

Christ. Please tell me that you at least know that that's not how they work? So that him saying that shit doesn't actually make you question yourself?

I think my anxiety would be less without him.

Of course I know how my meds work as does he! He's just being nasty when he says that, it used to be "it must be that time of month" but as I'm peri menopausal and my periods have pretty much stopped he can't use that one now.