Called "uptight" for asking boyfriend to not make leering comments at TV - AIBU?

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So I am in a newish relationship which has been going pretty well. Have been staying at his place this weekend and we have spent this morning watching some of the political stuff on the TV.

So was watching the Sky thing and he made a couple of comments about the presenter "doesn't she look great for a Sunday" "I wouldn't mind getting an interview from her" "You can see why male MPs want to go on here rather than Marr show" etc

When I commented on him sounding a bit sexist/disrespectful he went in a huff, called me "uptight" and said some bullshit about it being okay for women to do the same on Poldark (I don't even watch this).

I'm heading home in a bit and feel like seen a different side of the bloke or am I just overreacting?

Who the hell is Amanda?!

I meant a man

The sexist comments are one thing, but the shutting down of your opinions and name-calling should ring major alarm bells, I'm afraid. It doesn't sound like he has much respect for you.

As the saying goes 'when a man shows you who he is, believe him' . If he talks to you like this now, what will it be like in a few months / years. Total lack of respect.

It's not so much his leering, as the fact he didn't accept your request not to, and instead tried to bring you down and make you feel shit.

Any man that criticised me for stating that something made me uncomfortable would be binned faster than I could say 'fuck off you mysoginistic pig'. I have no time for people that don't respect my right to establish boundaries.

Thanks for the comments. Some stuff to think on.

I'd find it grim. Natural to notice if someone's attractive but it's a bit hurtful to bang on about it

He's telling you who he is. Listen! My ex was one for lewd remarks and it didn't end well at all.

Seems like you have found out in time. You can end it before it gets to the point of living together.

This should raise alarm bells he is someone who feels it is necessary to make his partner feel like he's interested in other women. What would he be like in a bar? Out with the lads?

It sounds to me like he wouldn't respect you. We can all think others are attractive but it isn't respectful and kind to not make it so known to our significant others. If he made one or two comments on seperate occasions perhaps when discussing attractiveness or someone else mentioned a celebrity on tv looking gorgeous etc that would be understandable. But this sounds like he's doing a running commentary off his own back out of the blue.

This would give me all sorts of concerns about what the future would hold with this man.

Get out now whilst it's easy. He's not your type of person if you felt you needed to question this.

I've dated plenty of idiots like this to be honest. However my husband is the most loyal and respectful man I could have hoped to meet. I know he likes ladies with big boobies (as he likes mine) but he wouldn't dream of making any such comments to me or anyone else. I even know that when his single friends discuss other women he will be silent or neutral. This doesn't make him not attracted to other ladies, just loyal to me and wanting to make me feel loved, confident and the only woman he fancies. You will find someone who feels this way about you and will treat you like you're the only woman worth commenting on.

Good luck xxx