To think my DH could have done me dinner not just him and the kids?

[Dizzywhore]

Iv been working all day 9-4. We both work full time yet I make dinner for the whole family every night! I don't normally work weekends so he was only with the kids but one of them was out for a large chunk of the day. He made them all dinner sat and ate in once I was home and said oh I should have made you something to shouldn't I? Yes!!!

On my first day back at work after my second maternity leave, when exP was acting as temporary SAHD, he texted me a photo on the train of a feta and vegetable tart he had made. this was at about 6pm and I was expecting to be back at 6.20. I thought "Lovely DP! he's made a nice dinner for us all."

When I got home at 6.20 it was entirely demolished - literally all gone - partly because dd1 had been allowed to eat pastry only and throw away the cheese and vegetables. I could understand that if they were all starving he may not have been able to keep any for me but the sequence of events was:
1 - make tart
2 - feel proud of tart and photograph it as a boastful gesture, with no intention of providing dinner to working partner
3 - demolish tart, including rendering some of it unfit to eat

It seemed a bit insensitive. On my FIRST day back to work. (I did secretly cry. I was very hungry.)

After dcs' bath and bedtime (I did it - still hungry) he sat down on the sofa and proudly announced he was going to "do an ocado". He sat there badgering me for 40 minutes about whether we needed this or that. Why? he was supposed to be becoming SAHD. surely he knew what was needed according to what he was planning to cook; or according to what was already in, which he obviously expected me to keep getting up and check.

he didn't ask me how my day went at all.

He's an ex.

Oh god he sounds like a right piece of work!!

What did your dh cook op?

YANBU, but. You know what you do when hes been working all day don't you. Just cook for the children and yourself. You scrath my back and all that.

Why is it always up to you to cook his tea. I'm sure he knows where the kitchen is. Its not the 50s anymore.
I'm.not surprised you're fuming.

It's far more efficient (re fuel and food waste) to cook one meal for everyone and have one person microwave their portion as necessary, than to cook say 75-80% of the quantity first, then cook an entire separate meal for one later on. It's rarely actually more work to cook for four than three. Leaving someone out is a bit of a statement IMHO.

Next time hes at work and you cook tea only for yourselves and DC you can sit down to eat and say "I should have made something for you". But I may be a bitch

Oh dear. At least he had the grace to realise and be ashamed. Men just don't think sometimes, my DH is lovely but sometimes just doesn't engage brain!