To be annoyed dh has told family I'm ovulating!

[Chicci1]

Husband was due to attend a family reunion abroad this weekend. We have been trying for a baby for about six months now and unfortunately timing being what it is, this weekend coincides with when I'm due to ovulate. Dh told me that he was happy enough to miss the reunion so he didn't go and I thought that was the end of it. Until his brother mentioned to me on the phone this morning that he hoped my ovulation is going well- accompanied by lots of snickers!! Turns out that dh had told his parents about me ovulating who in turn had told his three brothers. He doesn't see what the big deal is. I feel mortified about this and under more pressure than ever. Aibu?

Unless there is some major backstory you haven't told us, I agree with Iamastonished - what a ridiculous reason to make your DH miss a family reunion abroad. I could understand totally if you were in the middle of IVF, but not after a few months of trying. I bet his DP were really hurt and that's why they told the brothers.

Far, far too much information for him to share!

Yanbu

Bloody hell that's all a bit unnecessary! Although I am a bit that you've only been TTC for six months and your ovulation this month is important enough to cancel a family reunion abroad for.

I'd be concerned that he's cried off because he wasn't that fussed about going anyway, and in order to avoid being seen as flaky by his family he has decided to blame you by painting you as so desperately broody that you've become obsessed and controlling and have insisted that he stay behind to try to impregnate you.

Sorry op but that's hilarious and mortifying! I know what some of the other posters mean, you could argue you're all grown ups etc but.... What was he thinking?

Well if it was important enough to miss a big family gathering for, I guess it counts as news. I would caution you against running your whole lives around this but I think that may be something we all have to work out for ourselves. Good luck

It's just a bodily process though! Nothing to be embarrassed about.

Thanks everyone. I should say I certainly didn't make him miss the weekend - they have them very frequently (the last one was in November) and he was in two minds about going regardless of ttc. It was him who suggested not going given the timing and the fact that I'll be at home with our dc. I just don't know why he couldn't have come up with another excuse!

It was him who suggested not going given the timing

Well in that case it's even more mean of him to tell them, effectively blaming you (and your badly timed eggs ) but the DP probably are hurt which is why they told the others. Totally your DH's bad, I'm afraid.

This is an even sillier reason given that you already have a child/children.

He needs to come up with a better excuse next time. Could you not have gone with him?

That is cringeworthy! Yanbu

YANBU, overshare! and without asking, you can't share personal information about your partner without their knowledge/being okay surely???

so he missed a famil reunion abroad for one ovulation

sorry i think thats out of order

misses the point

Maybe he couldn't take the eggs-citement, Gabs?

I don't think it counts as a reunion if it happens every few months, and doesn't even include the spouses/grandchildren.

Well yanbu to be annoyed at dh specifically. I would feel slightly offended at having an invitation turned down because someone essentially and blatantly was wanting to hump their OH, so I can't say I don't understand your bil having a dig.

I would be getting him to ring everyone and explicitly state it was his decision because it's clearly painted you as baby-crazy. Even with an explanation you both come out of this with your priorities looking slightly off kilter....

Don't get me wrong, I understand really wanting to conceive, but no one else will understand or want to and will just feel slighted.

I don't really understand why you couldn't all have gone though.

Gabs I agree. Maybe not if they were so far childless and had been trying for years, where every ovulation is precious, but that's not the case, so....