to be sick of all the different diets?

[SouthernNorthernGirl]

I have been waiting all week to (re) join a well known weight loss group today. Well, we're here and I'm dreading it. I've been on or off for the last 10 yrs, and sadly I'm at my biggest ever

I started after DS2, and I feel it's to blame for my messed up problems with food. Before I started, I had never dieted and ate what I wanted. I weighed around 8.5 stone before, always. I now weigh 13stone, and rapidly gaining.
I'm sick of it.

Am I right, and should never have started in the first place? Or am I a greedy fucker, and just need to follow a plan correctly?
Also would I be unreasonable to start my own common sense eating support thread?

The key is to understand that your body is your friend. When I realised this, quite recently, a wave of good feeling went through me. My body is my friend, not my enemy. I have battled with my weight all of my life since adolescence. I have been every size from 10 to 20. I will never diet again. I will always try to eat healthily and eat less of the bad stuff.

I'm with OhCrepe! Lost a stone so far after resetting my relationship with food using Paul McKenna's app. Had lost the joy of cooking and eating too, and it's now back with a vengeance - made tagine, kofte and some Korean dishes this week. Had chocolate and cake. Still lost 2lb. Most importantly, I feel liberated from the constant guilt and secret eating bollocks.

Re the midnight snacking - this does sound like the mindless eating. I felt that I had to make more of a mental connection between what I was eating and it's effects on my body - e.g. If I eat this cake it is x calories and I haven't exercised today and ate crisps with lunch - that's not an unhealthy mindset but it's just being aware of what goes in your mouth and also the exercise you do.

I think it's easy to have binges and then get into a downward spiral of 'what does one more biscuit matter' etc but the reality is you are the one in control and just because you had a treat of 2 biscuits doesn't mean you have to eat a whole pack.

It takes willpower at first but honestly becomes second nature after a while.

garlic and tomato focaccia bread

Ooh - I keep cross posting.

OP I really couldn't say whether it might make you obsess more. It's so personal. I do have to roughly plan what I'm eating each day and I have certain 'set' meals I repeat. I can't be arsed with always being super creative. I would say, though, that tracking everything makes me obsess less. I know exactly how many calories I've had and feel in control. Before I started using the app I probably obsessed more because I had no real idea and therefore EVERYTHING made me feel guilty. The app just becomes part of your routine after a while and you become familiar with calorific content etc. You do have to learn not to beat yourself up if you go over your calories though. I had half a pack of jaffa cakes and two wispa bars last night. Not ideal, but I will be on track today and won't let it get me down. Easier said than done, but it's a really important hurdle to get over.

OP you probably would obsess over food for a bit - but not necessarily a bad thing. Perhaps just become more aware.

This is all really helpful, thank you MNetters!
I will start a thread on this, as I said - best place? I've been on MN for years, just tend to stick to a few boards though.

Maybe here?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/weight_loss_chat

Thanks floss

Link is [[https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/weight_loss_chat/2851878-Common-Sense-Eating?watched=1&msgid=66880174#66880174 here]

Oh, fail! here