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...to report my colleague? (WWYD?)

94 replies

WheresMyMountainGoat · 10/02/2017 22:03

I've NC'd for this.

I work in a small team of two in an open planned office, with our boss working in a different location.

In the past few months I've noticed my colleague spending a lot of time doing non-work activities on their (work) computer; things like online shopping / personal photo editing / news reading.

I'm not sure if this has gone unnoticed by my boss. We rarely share deadlines, but I have noticed these being missed. Delays are often blamed on other people within the business.

The lack of work doesn't really impact on my role, which is why I've kept my nose out thus far. However, its increasingly annoying watching the procrastination happen (often for most of the day), and then listening to the bullshit stories covering for it.

Whilst a few people in the office have noticed, they won't comment as separate teams - they're also my friends, so more likely to mention it to me!

WWYD? AIBU to mention it to my boss?

OP posts:
Missbohan · 12/02/2017 05:34

I don't think it ever works out snitching on a co-worker. I have seen it before so many times - whatever the outcome you will always be seen as a grass, so not worth it. Just don't do it - concentrate on your own work and yourself and don't draw the drama on yourself!

Missbohan · 12/02/2017 05:39

Ps I was in a similar situation in a previous job where an event had a lot of problems on the night due to one girl not doing half of what she was meant to in advance. When manager predictably was furious and wanted to know what happened, i said 'x didn't do bla bla bla' without thinking, and i was the one who got punished - manager said something along the lines of 'i don't care who is at fault, you are part of a team so all responsible, stop trying to get other people in trouble'!!! So since then I am very careful and actually now I work for myself from home so avoid office politics. But if other person doesn't impact your work and you can get on with yours without them then I would just go with it and leave the manager to "manage" them as they wish

MaisyPops · 12/02/2017 05:55

Let someone whonis directly affected do it.

If you havd any involvement with this person then keep a paper trail e.g. if shes doing nothinh but you need something then email her saying 'so that i can do x, y, z I need a,b,c by friday otherwise the deadline might be missed. If youre struggling with workload like you said earlier, why dont you ask manager for an extension? I can adapt my own workload to account for a new deadline'.
If she doesnt do it then youve got all your date stamped emails and you can have a quiet word with management about your colleagues wellbeing e.g. susy doewnt seem herself, ive not been able to do my tasks because she hadnt completed x,y,z. I dont suppose shes been to see you. I suggested she might if therea something going on.'

Paninotogo · 12/02/2017 05:57

As babyspider says beaky outy stop making drama, what does it have to do with you?

Steve1970 · 12/02/2017 08:24

Nobody likes a grass. Even the boss

MissDallas · 12/02/2017 08:47

I work for the boss in a very large organization and man his Inbox. We get anonymous emails snitching on people all the time. Maybe this is the way to go?

Ordinarily, I would not condone snitching, however, the co-worker is blaming other people for her poor performance and that is not fair.

daisychain01 · 12/02/2017 09:00

How can you get anonymous emails?

I've worked in IT security for years and I'm unaware of any organisation that would permit that, not least of all for audit trail and compliance purposes. Every electronic mail needs to be traceable back to a human being.

MissDallas · 12/02/2017 11:05

They set up new email accounts like '[email protected]'.

angeldelightedme · 12/02/2017 13:04

What happens is this

  1. A reports B
  2. B gets reprimanded
  3. B works out it is A who grasses
  4. B tells C through to Z
  5. Nobody ,B to Z, wants to work with A
  6. A is 'managed' out of the business
SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 12/02/2017 14:10

I do understand why people are saying 'beaky outy' and 'no-one likes a grass/brown-noser' - but I can also understand why people would get pissed off when they are doing their job properly, but someone else is pissing around on the internet and photo-editing, so that all their colleagues are either having to pick up the slack or are getting blamed for missed deadlines.

It is not fair or right that conscientious workers should get the blame for Slacker colleague's poor work, IMO.

If the OP gets bollocked for a missing deadline on a joint project with her slacking colleague, I think she would be entirely justified in saying that she'd done everything she was supposed to, and it was her colleague's slacking that caused the missed deadline. Otherwise, I think it is up to the colleagues who are either having to pick up the slack, or who are getting blamed for missed deadlines, to report her.

daisychain01 · 12/02/2017 15:27

They set up new email accounts like '[email protected]'.

That stuff would get swallowed up by our turbo-charged spam filter Grin

haveacupoftea · 12/02/2017 15:44

I understand why you are annoyed, but as a manager I am most unimpressed when members of my team grass on my colleagues. What they dont understand is I already know - always. I know who is doing what, and I will be managing things as I see fit. Emails complaining that X is doing this, that or the other and something needs to be done about it will be met with very short shrift!

haveacupoftea · 12/02/2017 15:45

Their colleagues, not my colleagues. Although they often try complaining about other managers too Hmm

Missbohan · 12/02/2017 15:53

Agree with haveacupoftea - most managers already know exactly what is going on and are managing it in their own way. You do your job - let everyone else do theirs. Anything else is going to cause problems.

IntoTheDeep · 12/02/2017 16:13

What they dont understand is I already know - always. I know who is doing what, and I will be managing things as I see fit.

How can you be sure that you always know what your team's up to?
There's been a few cases I can think of at work where management have been unaware of things. Including one where employees on one team were emailing hard core porn about using work computers - they only got caught because some of it was accidentally forwarded to a client and the client complained. The employees who'd been doing the emailing were sacked on the spot, and the employees who'd just received the emails got formal verbal warnings for having known about it and failing to report it to management.
That's a more extreme case of wrong doing than what OP talks about, but it's one that flew under managements radar until it was reported.

user1483981877 · 12/02/2017 16:22

Years ago I snitched on someone due to safeguarding. It did not go well. The office staff informed the person who I had informed on, it got incredibly awkward I ended up leaving. I wouldn't advise it unless you are 100% sure.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 12/02/2017 16:36

Well if its any consolation to you User148. I would also report a safe guarding issue. I'd have no qualms about doing so. There's no way I'd have someone's death or serious accident on my conscience. A safe guarding matter is entirely different to whst this thread is about.

Gwenhwyfar · 12/02/2017 16:44

Yes, safeguarding is very different to going on the internet on work time.

user1483981877 · 12/02/2017 17:12

I know, I just felt like adding a different view as someone mentioned safeguarding further up the thread. The whole place was a complete shambles and it was a relief to walk away from the who situation to be honest. Shocking.

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