AIBU to get p*ssed off with comments on bump size

[Babybeesmama]

Pregnant with DC 3.. was already a bit overweight on getting preggers so being careful what I eat as to not stack on the lbs like I did with previous too. Am now 18 weeks & have popped & suddenly have a bump! Have kept an eye on my weight & have actually stayed the same since xmas day which I'm pleased with.

So today.. someone makes a nice commented that my bump looks lovely & all of a sudden round & properly pregnant.. before I can say thanks supposed best friend says sarcastically..

'Nothing to do with all the cheese & biscuits, cake & flapjack you've eaten!'.. in front of all my work colleagues.

Thanks... AIBU to be peed off? And best friend knows I'm trying to be careful & am conscious I look bigger than 18 weeks.

I was expecting twins on 23rd May, when I went to a NYE party I walked into the room everybody fell about laughing at the sheer size of my bump. As I inevitably got bigger the stares and the pointing got worse, when I went to the Ante Natal clinic the room would fall silent as I walked in (I even heard one woman say to her partner "Do you think its quads?")
You do really have to rise above it and tell yourself you are really special as you are "growing a new person", and they/she is just thoughtless and daft and isn't as clever as you.

Everyone was amazed at the size of my babies and I got lots of attention and congratulations for all the right reasons

Everyone should know that the only appropriate thing to say to a pregnant woman with ref to her bump/size is: "you look great"... no ifs, no buts, just that.

I had two comments in the space of one day when I was pregnant, '30 weeks! Are you sure it's not twins' and 'ohhh, you carry small just like Kate Middleton.' I was measuring bang on dates.

Still get the same now DD is nearly two, 'oh, she's never nearly two - she's so diddy' and 'she's quite tall, she looks older than two!'

It's weird because you don't meet an adult and say 'oh, you've got quite a lot of grey hair for a 37 year old.' Pregnant women and children seem to be fair game though.

She definitely isn't TTC.. she's like an open book we tell each other everything . There's definitely more going on & I sense the marriage isn't the happiest ... she was always desperate for babies as soon as they were married & her DH has kind of back tracked. I've supported her as I know she wants them. But I don't think that's any excuse for her to make comments like that.

She did actually text today saying she had realised she had been really rude & apologised & said she never meant it offensively. This was without me saying anything to her.

There's actually a lady in office who has been TTC for over a year & when I told her I was pregnant I told her by herself before everyone else & we had a hug & I've been really conscious of her feelings & not banging on about it all the time. She's been lovely about it all!

She did actually text today saying she had realised she had been really rude & apologised & said she never meant it offensively. This was without me saying anything to her.

I would imagine she's been reading mumsnet !

Ha ha 🙈 I hope not! ....

Commenting on my bump size really got my goat when pregnant. I had excess fluid so was massive. People weren't shy of telling me either; cue twins comments, waddling remarks and loads of others. In the beginning I ignored but towards the end, I was so pissed off, I began snapping at them.