I'm going to hold a pity party,you are all welcome to attend

[strawberrysalsa]

I know I am being unreasonable but I've reached the end of what I can cope with so am sat with a cup of tea and a pile of biscuits feeling sorry for myself.

It's not my normal behaviour,I'm very much a glass half full person but this week is just too much. My adult daughter is chronically ill and deteriorating steadily and her wheelchair is broken, again. Just had to get the roof sorted in January when I obviously have so much spare money.

But that not what has tipped me over the edge, I keep seeing a rat in my yard and I'm now waiting for pest control to come and hold my hand and reassure me there is nothing in my house. Also the cat is sat on my computer chair so I'm having to type this on my kindle...the cat is asleep and looking cute so obviously can't just be moved.

And as it's my pity party and I can be pathetic if I want to, I'm on my period, I'm 54 I was hoping to have finished with all that by now!

I know my problems are not major and I will feel better soon but I've no one in RL I can just whinge to so I'm whinging here instead

HG is a terrible thing*

Can I join? I've had this virus going around for nearly 3 weeks. My sinuses are full of green crap and hurt terribly. My 11 month old is teething. I am so tired I fell asleep on the loo. Oh I put my neck out too.

I'm sat in a car park waiting to go into soft play. That is the final nail.

Tea, biscuits and a bloody good whinge for everyone this grey damp (fucking freezing) Wednesday.

And sack the cat. Or teach it about rodents.

This seems to be the thread for me...

I've been ill for a couple of weeks now. Running hot then cold, feeling sick, headaches, congested nose so struggling to breathe and then despite taking sleeping pills...not bloody sleeping!!

I'm shattered and feeling very sorry for myself

I assume I can throw more than one grumble into the mix at a pity party...
No one in RL would want to know but I'm having my 3rd fucking period of the new year. Mightily pissed off.

Oh dear glue, softplay?! Poor you.

I'm living in a foreign country, DH is away on business and I got no sleep last night due to noise outside the house. My combined school-run-commute-to-work currently takes 2 hours in the mornings. I'm currently having lunch at my desk and contemplating how the fk I get everything done before my day off tomorrow (p/t) given that 'on a temporary basis' all the work for the whole company is being done by me and 1 other whilst the rest of the 'team' work on an exceptional and urgent project.

We have a holiday booked week after next and I'm not even looking forwards to that as all the prep and packing is my job and DD1 is already being vocal about all the things she doesn't want to do and won't join in with so it's going to be a week long battle of wills combined with exhaustion....

We are all healthy and safe and not poor - I really should be grateful for these important things but Christ, every day life is a bloody grind at times.

[I'd love proper English tea and biscuits but the milk is UHT and the biscuits in the office are weird flavours].

Rat alone would tip me over the edge

I've been ill since November and my 3 year old DOES NOT CARE.

I usually think if we survive January the year gets better, mostly because its not as dark and February is a nice short month. But this year I'm just going to wait for March.

We have a local cat who obviously thinks either I'm a rubbish hunter and needs help or that he/she is a cat Godfather because I've found headless mice in my yard...the head is always left somewhere for me to find. Now why can't that cat go and sort my rat problem!

I'm sorry so many of us are having such a naff start to the year. I am now starting on my emergency chocolate as I've finished the biscuits...I will restart being good about what I eat soon before need new jeans...but not today.

thank you for joining my party. I'm feeling less feeble and pathetic and will be back to normal soon. Whinging is underrated, it's actually good for us...sometimes....I would have added wine but wine is not a good route to go down before lunch !

That's what tea and coffee are for. To keep you going until such a time as it's acceptable to drink wine.

I'll join in if I may. I'm almost 6 weeks post total hysterectomy and everything was healing nicely but now have a UTI and am back on antibiotics. Bit early for and so here's some and for everyone

strawberry - if I lived near you I'd volunteer my Patterdale terrier to deal with your rat. She is a stone-cold killer (and manages to look cute too). Can you borrow a terrier?

As to whingeing...I can't afford to heat my house. It's freezing and I've got a coal fire but we're on the last bucket of coal. Oil fired central heating is unaffordable, so i spend a lot of time in bed (with dog). The money I earn pays the bills (just - I live alone) and there is nothing left over for heating, car, etc, and it's all going fucking downhill. It's soon going to be unaffordable to eat, unless I convert to dog food (which, on the plus side, actually smells quite nice).

Huge hugs to everyone. Sometimes life is shit, isn't it?

Oh goody, I'm joining in! The most pressing matter is the horrendous cold I've got, I've been coughing so much my chest hurts and my nose is sore because I must have wiped it about a million times. I can't taste anything so eating seems utterly pointless, so drowning my sorrows in chocolate is out. Life in general sucks too, but what can you do? I hope everything gets better for everyone soon! In the meantime, there's this song...

m.youtube.com/watch?v=ZpUYjpKg9KY

Thank goodness for this thread, is it ok if I join in? Got a few major life-changing things going on, can't be helped and so far I've been dealing with it fairly optimistically knowing the next few weeks are going to be horribly stressful and dreading it but it will get better after that.

Yesterday we had a bit of running around to do to various appointments and some official papers to sign which set our way forward in stone. I got through all this cheerfully having, as I thought, more or less accepted there's no other choice. On the way home called into the supermarket for a few bits, left DH in the car since I wasn't going to be long.

Got most of what I needed in a few minutes then stopped mid aisle trying to remember something I knew we'd run out of. Couldn't think of it so after a few minutes of standing there staring into space (must have looked mad) thought I'd just keep walking around the shelves in the hopes I'd spot it. Got to the fridges and remembered it was butter. They had run out of my usual brand. Normally I'd just grab the nearest equivalent but for some reason it felt like the end of the world and the tears just started rolling down my face. Had to rush to the loos to mop myself up - told DH when he mentioned how long I'd been there'd been long queues. He's been even more stressed and worried than I am, I have to hold it together so he doesn't blame himself any more than he already does.

Hope everyone here feels a bit better for letting it out. Love your kitty, OP, and no you can't move him.

I thought you were BU about a cat being too cute to move until I saw the pic!

I'm facing a PIP appeal (oh joy) so will joing the pity party in my PJs if that's ok?

My own pets are moulting all over the place... I'm wondering if I can collect all the fur and give it to some fledgling avant garde designer to make a jumper from...

Is this pity party an open invite?
I'd love a good moan.

I have just been turned down for my dream job. I currently work every day of the week, every hour of the day on a rotating shift basis. Permanently knackered and I only get to spend two days a month with my amazing 4 year old DS.

OH is unemployed and will be for the foreseeable due to his fecklessness. I am beyond poor and can barely afford food let alone the repairs to my house.

Never see friends due to working hours and my family couldn't care.

Permanent state of crying at the moment. I need a hug.

HorseDentist
I hope OH is doing the housework/cooking.

(Now I have "my lovely horse" playing in my head!)

MycatsaPirate - LTC!

and OP [flowers} and some more

lets face it the small stuff is enough anyway, but the big thing is your DD must be so hard and you are allowed to burble and cry and, oh just find it hard, Its the hardest thing ever X

I am really tired and my back hurts but that's nothing Nothing to what you have with your DD

look after yourself

well the pest people are here and sorting getting rid of rodent stuff. They are very calming and definitely are making me feel less nervous.

But I have to get rid of my bird feeders while the bait takes effect...okay I kind of knew I'd have to but how do I explain that to the birds? I get masses of sparrows coming to the bird feeders and okay they are messy and sometimes thank me by crapping on my car, but I really like them and they won't understand where the food has gone.

The cat has gone to hide upstairs as she has been as cute as she can downstairs and will go and pose somewhere else.

Any chance of joining?

I'm mightily fed up / shattered / exhausted and have taken slave in a pack of mint oreos that I bought for the children.

So since Christmas DC3 has been hospitalised; dog has been hospitalised. I've helped elderly GP move house so that they can be reunited with my other elderly GP who has been in a care home. Who have just presented us with a bill for £21,000😮. Which wouldnt be so bad if it was a lovely home but it's not. Have spent 3 weeks trying to find a carer to visit at home so that said GP can be released from home and come home. Am sick of it all. I don't know how many hours I've spent on the phone to incompetent local council type people.

I've applied for a job as we have very little money as our rent has gone up and dh getting stressy. Anyway id love the job but not heard anything. Not even a no thank you. It was for a TA position so I know a billion people applied but even so. Not helped by a mummy friend who walked into such a job "but I'm a graduate" she said. Well so am I love.

Oh and last week the police arrived at my mums to seize her puppy as there had been a problem with her passport (breeders vet vaccinated too early) so she's currently in quarantine.

Oh and I eat too much and drink too much so I'm now fat AND miserable.

I literally dread waking up every day as god knows what will happen next.

Sidling in for my own pitiful moan. I have fibromyalgia and it hurts. I woke up at 2am with a migraine and had to get up as I felt sick. Settled it off with a cup of tea, some ibuprofen and an episode of Helix on Netflix. Was just snuggling down on my sofa for some more sleep when the toddler woke up, coughing badly. He wont be settled by DH, so he snuggled up next to me and kept me awake for the rest of the night. I have spent the day exhausted, still fighting of a migraine and trying to do some practical stuff around a poorly clingy toddler who just wants to eat fruit winders all day. We had some awful family news recently which I am still coming to terms with, I have a course to go on this evening and I'm tired. Also my IBS is really playing up and the only thing I seem to be able to eat without very painful cramps and near constant wind is popcorn. I just keep reminding myself that no matter how bad I am feeling, it's not a patch on what my family member with the bad news is going through. Still feel like crap though.