WIBU to speak to the person who drove into my car this morning?

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I was on the school run this morning and got back to my (sensibly-parked) car to find a taxi driver leaving me a note. He had seen someone scrape alongside my car, having been too impatient to wait whilst a car came the other way. They didn't stop but he had noted their number plate etc.

My car has a couple of very minor scratches. One on the wing mirror (which had been knocked in) and 2 on the door panel. I don't plan to approach my insurance company.

I looked online about reporting to the police for leaving the scene of an accident, more to make the person think than anything, but they won't investigate minor damage to parked cars, only record it. In other words, they won't actually speak to the person concerned.

The thing is, I was told at pick up that it was the mum of a child in the pre-school, confirmed when I checked the make/model & reg with the person telling me (who works there). I don't know the driver, but it will be easy to find them tomorrow morning. So, do I speak to the driver in a non-confrontational way and tell them they should have stopped and at least acknowledge what they had done? Or do I ignore it? What would you do?

Honestly? Would you stop if you thought you'd 'just' clipped someone's wing mirror?

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AndShesGone Mon 06-Feb-17 17:39:20
Very funny. grin

are you on the right post ? or did you intend this for somewhere else ?"

Guessing AndShesGone is referring to another post which was bumped yesterday....re somebody being worried that they hit a wing mirror on the way to school and didn't stop. It was posted 10/1 though

Telling them her name is giving them details.

It really isn't. Giving her address and telephone number is "giving them details".

You have to report it to the insurance company, even if you don't intend to claim for the damage. It's in the small print.

^ This.

honestly, i'd report it to the police and the insurance and let them sort it out. people who hit cars and drive off can't care much about doing the right thing and i would not want to be dragged into a slanging match outside a school. i am a cryer tho, when i'm angry especially, so i would avoid confrontation as i would not want to cry in front that idiot!

Update...

First of all, just to clarify for those who were concerned I was given the driver's name by the pre-school, I wasn't. I wasn't told anything about them. It was only confirmed that the car belonged to someone dropping off at pre-school (it was the taxi driver who'd said first that it was a woman) . I can't see how that would breach any confidentiality.

As it turns out, I didn't have to speak to the driver as I was contacted this morning by a mutual acquaintance with her name, address and insurance details plus an apology.

I doubt any of those details would have been forthcoming had she not been tipped off that she was seen! I very much doubt that she just happened to say to mutual acquaintance, "you don't know who owns that do you, as I may have damaged it?" (and then driven off), which is apparently what happened. She didn't think there would be any damage to my car as her wing mirror was ok, but she certainly didn't stop and check her mirror where it happened.

The upshot is that I don't think we'll be doing anything about it anyway, as I've had another look now it's not raining and you have to really look for the scratches to see them as they're very superficial (could it be that protective layer of dirt on my car?!). They are not something I'd bother about had I scratched them on a hedge or something. I just wanted the driver to think next time, if there is a next time, about doing the right thing in the first place before being forced into it, as you never know who's watching!

Thanks to those who took the time to reply.

I wonder if either she or the mutual acquaintance saw this thread

Like I said, Allthebest, you never know who's watching!!!

That's ok then. Glad it's all sorted.