My DF died last week. AIBU not to go to work tomorrow?

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I'm reeling a bit to be honest. Have already used up my 5 days compassionate entitlement as he was so ill late last year but he rallied for a while before finally succumbing. I've only got 5 days annual leave to last till April but I'll need that for the funeral as we'll be travelling. Work say to take what I feel is right and they'll sort something out, but I don't know. I feel a bit of a fraud taking time off as I'm not really involved in the practical arrangements and I don't feel ill or crazy, but I can't concentrate too well and I can't face talking to people I don't know. WIBU to take tomorrrow off?

You can take it off sick in these circumstances, you are very likely to be physically/mentally well enough to work, if you need more time then your GP will very likely be happy to sign you off for longer.

Sorry for your loss

meant *not well enough to work.

My sincerest condolences on your sad loss.
Yes, do take tomorrow off. No need to feel bad about needing the time to yourself even if you are not directly involved in arrangements. Be kind to yourself.

YANBU. People at my work place take up to six months off sick with stress when they lose a parent.

Take as many days off as you need. Without guilt. Please be kind to yourself x

Take it.
I wish I had.
I went straight into work after the weekend my mum died. Everyone thought I was barmy. I thought I would be better keeping myself busy, but I know now I should have given myself time to grieve properly.

Please take all the time you need. I've lost both my parents unfortunately and I know too well how much you need time. Work will still be there and no doctor will refuse a sick note for bereavement stress if that's what you think will help.
And so sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry Sweet, take a couple of days, I think you'll find that you'll be glad of them. Even though you were aware of what was going to happen, it's still a shock to the system. 💐

If you want to take the day off, do it. It's not like you're going to be living it up. There might come a point when you feel like you might as well go in because there's no point sitting at home. You should do that too. I hope people will be nice to you. IME they are.

Sorry for your loss

Another one saying take all the time you need/want to and be very grateful for such compassionate and understanding employers.

You need to take what you need, but depending on your workplace policiesthey may ask you to take some as annual leave when you return.

Can you self certify sick leave after a bereavement? Or try your GP

I am so sorry for your loss.

I used to work in HR, our compassionate leave entitlement was really poor.... but there was the understanding that if you are not up to working (and not being able to concentrate would be included) then it would be sick leave.

Look after yourself.

I only took a day off after DF died, just to sort out some arrangements, but I work from home, so it's a bit different to dragging yourself into an office to work. I also work part-time so had time to sort out practical stuff and I'd had power of attorney so I knew where all the finances were etc.

My boss said she expected me to take 2-3 weeks off. So there is an expectation that you will take quite a bit of time off - take it if you need to. I didn't need to but I am probably an exception. I also think employers would rather you get your head together at least a little bit before you go back to work.