To be pissed off?

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Had some friends come over last night for dinner. 4 ladies in total moved into the lounge after dinner for a chat, topics were the usual bar some baby chat as two of us are new mothers. Mid conversation one of the group pulled out her phone and started browsing the internet as we were obviously boring her.

Am I dramatic for thinking that's really rude and antisocial?

And it wasn't a quick check which is fine of course!

If she is childless and you had been talking about it for ages then you can't get annoyed at her for being rude as I think it's much more rude to keep the conversation on something that excludes one of your guests. If she doesn't have children she won't have had anything to contribute so what would you rather have her do, stare into space bored out of her mind? How long would you expect her to sit listening to a topic that has no interest to her? Would you not prefer that all your guests had a good time. Spending time on her phone would have been rude if you had made an effort to include her but if not then I think you are being unreasonable.

It was rude. But still it was thoughtless of the others to have a prolonged conversation about babies. Still it's becoming the norm for people to text during meals out or meet ups for coffee. It's a bit rude IMHO.

It wasn't baby talk at the time at all!!!
Just because you've given birth doesn't mean you can't hold a non baby related conversation!!

One of us jokingly said about the phone and she said

Oh I don't know who your talking about? I.e "I'm bored"

I said some baby talk previously as the human you recently birthed do sometimes come up

No one was pissed and the topic was hair related!!!!

No need for all the exclamation marks, you can see why people got confused from the way your op is worded.

I was very rude, regardless of the conversation. I think some people have become so attached to their phones that the pull them out without thinking.

It's poor manners but it's not necessarily deliberate.

Sounds like regardless of what MN commented are saying you are going to be pissed off. Your comment back is very defensive.

It seems like a majority of responses are saying that if she's childless the conversation is hard for her to be included in. I don't blame her for nosing on her phone

Just admit you don't like her very much OP. Friends are normally forgiven for having a quick look at their phones whilst chatting in a group, these days. To expect everyone to be hanging on each others' every word is unrealistic, these days.

So then you were talking about someone/something she didn't know??

And most of us have birthed humans and managed to talk about other things!

Were you gossiping and she may not have liked it?

I think its incredibly rude but then I'm not addicted to fancy mobiles and although childless would have happily chatted with friends about their offspring.

So if a conversation isn't interesting enough, we should just...start doing something else?

Even most children have better social skills than that.

I think it's rude. YANBU.

It's rude, there's no point trying to excuse it or not explain it away. If I feel like someone's drifting and left out of the conversation I try to steer it round and include them, but we all have those friends who will blatantly get their phones out instead of being present in the room.

Just rude to go to someones house for dinner, then when everyone is chatting you pull your phone out and browse the internet?

Its like saying thanks for the grub but you are all too boring for me to talk to,

OP already said they were talking about other stuff when she did it but it doesnt matter what the conversation is you just dont do that.
What the hell did everyone do before mobile phones? Oh yes, listen to each other!

Thinking of all the threads beratting people/families for having their phones out at restaurants etc instead of engaging with each other but its ok to do it when you are a guest in someones house?