Page 2 | To think that every child you have, brings new friends into your life

KeyserSophie · 05/02/2017 05:01

Probably true but I think the impact tends to get smaller for each additional child because your routine tends to revolve around the older ones rather than the baby.

Sallystyle · 05/02/2017 05:07

No.

Ponderingprivately · 05/02/2017 05:08

in my case I agree,obviously not with everyone your child meets but for me certainly some. DD got invited on her first playdate in pre-school when she was 3 and a half, so I took her round. Turns out DDs friend's mum and I have a similar job, loads in common and she's become a really good friend.
I also made another friend through the same pre-school but through my baby (at the time DS). Was dropping off DD, while another woman was dropping off hers - our DDs were not friends. We both had a screaming newborn in tow and both looked pretty stressed. I asked if she wanted to come over for a coffee and we've been really good friends ever since.

My DC have bought new friends into my life for sure.

Sallystyle · 05/02/2017 05:09

I have five children. I have one friend who I still see who I met in the school playground.

RebootYourEngine · 05/02/2017 05:18

I saw a post on my local fb page. Someone was looking for 'mummy friends'.
A few people posted and said that they were her friends. Her reply 'but i want more mummy friends'. Dont see why you need mummy friends, why not just friends.

ScarlettFreestone · 05/02/2017 05:18

I agree with you Lard my husband and I have both found new friendship groups (both individually and as a couple) through having children.

We're not friends with these people because we all have children we just happened to meet some really nice, interesting people through our NCT group, Mother and Baby groups, nursery and school.

We do live in a small town where you tend to bump into each other at the shops, library, park etc so I think that probably helps foster friendships.

We've both maintained our friendship groups from before we had kids but there's room for both.

Motherfuckers · 05/02/2017 05:31

It may be true to some extent, but these are people you encounter through nothing more than having children of similar ages. The people that have been brought into my life by me (hobbies, career, longevity) are far more on my wavelength.

londonrach · 05/02/2017 06:57

It brings more people into your life so a way of meeting people would could led to a friend.

Madeyemoodysmum · 05/02/2017 08:18

I've got friends from my kids. Some from baby group
Some from when they were at nursery and some at school

Eldest is just about to go secondary but I don't expect to make any there.
I have a few close friends from each stage. X

Creampastry · 05/02/2017 08:28

No .... it gets worse as when you get to secondary school you don't get to know anyone

Lostwithinthehills · 05/02/2017 08:31

Not for me. I tried really hard to make friends when my DD was a baby and I did get a little group. Some of the group got to know each other because of me. But I was ghosted out of the group a couple of years ago. I'm not making friends at the school gate, I want to but I seem to have a bit of a force field around me which prevents people approaching me. I've chatted to a few of the mums and tried my best to be engaging with them but they don't seem interested in standing with me and I'm not going to plonk myself like a spare part in a group chatting together. One mum who I tried to be friendly with was chatty enough when I spoke to her but actually stuck her nose in the air and deliberately looked in the other direction when I waved at her the next day!

LittleCandle · 05/02/2017 08:38

Not for me. When DD1 was born my neighbour across the street, who I had been to school with, had her DS a couple of days later. We were on the same ward, they were in the same class at school, but we definitely didn't become friends. Same with DD2. I met a lot of people because of her interests, but again I didn't become friends with any of them. That's fine; I have long-time friends who have been my friends through thick and thin.

ShowMePotatoSalad · 05/02/2017 08:45

I've lost a couple of friends since having my son..have yet to gain any as a result.

RebelandaStunner · 05/02/2017 08:46

I have lots of friends, none of which I made through having DC.
Not what I expected tbh. I've always found it easy to make friends but never felt a connection with anyone from school. When mine were primary age I had people to stand with and chat to but that was it.
The recent (last few years) friends I have made are through walking the dogs, work, going out.

Trills · 05/02/2017 08:48

Are you looking for quotes for motivational posters?

Enb76 · 05/02/2017 08:53

I agree with OP. The school gates have been almost more important for me socially than school has been for my child. I have a few acquaintances but have made two or three genuine friends. I moved here just as my child was starting school and went from having no local friends to a whole bunch of people. As a single parent it has been invaluable from my child being taken to school when I've been ill to being invited to parties and dinners and even slobbing in front of Strictly with a glass or two of wine.

SpookyPotato · 05/02/2017 09:21

Maybe it comes later but not met anyone yet and DS is nearly 3.. People just help their kids at parks and playgroups.

Bloopbleep · 05/02/2017 09:27

I never made any friends with dd and as I was the first of my existing friends to have a child they all disappeared too.

BewtySkoolDropowt · 05/02/2017 09:28

I don't think that I met any of my friends through having children. There's one that I got closer too because of them. I've met many people through my children, but my friends are people that I've met from school and through work. But I'm not one of those people that wants 100 friends. Quality over quantity every time.

Silverdream · 05/02/2017 09:33

I have met friends via my kids. A couple have turned into very close friends.
I have also had mums who are only friends with me whilst their child is mates with my child. As soon as their friendship moves on so does the parent.
My close friends our kids no longer hang out together as their lives have gone in different directions- jobs, uni , different colleges and just moving on. We however have remained close.

Magzmarsh · 05/02/2017 09:34

Had lots when they were younger but now they're 20 and 16 I only have about 3 left from primary school days. That said they're good solid pals I hope I'll have forever.

WhooooAmI24601 · 05/02/2017 09:35

I agree with this. Some of the parents of their friends will be crevices, because you can't possibly like everyone, but some can end up being lovely additions to your life.

One woman I know through the DCs only has 'new' friends she's made through school. She has nobody from Uni, School or work. It's odd because that's not how it is for DH and I; we have groups of friends from pretty much every part of our lives. But we're both very outgoing and easy-going, so friendships seem to come easily.

RaskolnikovsGarret · 05/02/2017 09:40

No. I did try when DDs were at play groups/primary, and even secondary school. Found that we were the wrong class / colour to fit in. Not playing the race card, simply a fact. Have got friends outside school/lots through work. But there's only so much you can try with other parents - if they don't want to invite you to anything, you can't force them to.

catwoman0815 · 05/02/2017 09:44

far from it. Having a severely autistic child has actually cost me a lot of people I considered 'friends'. I am now an isolated loner.

Kione · 05/02/2017 09:48

I made two friends through DD(7) school but now I just had a baby and feel I am missing out a lot, they do help with DD but I wish I could spend more time with them as individuals not just mums.