To enjoy going out without baby?

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Anon as might be revealing my identify.

DS is just over 4 weeks old. He's combination fed (difficult birth recovery meant I expressed and DH fed him at first).

DH is fantastic and today I left them together to go shopping and out for lunch with a friend. Was out for about 5 hours in total.

I had a lovely time and felt like 'me' again. Was pleased to be reunited with DS but already planning my next outing.

Have had major judgement from two friends, and a neighbour I bumped in to who said they couldn't contemplate leaving their babies at such a young age. Neighbour said I was 'brave' for leaving baby at home with DH and her DH would never have coped

I feel guilty and like a terrible mother! And very selfish.

Aibu in needing time away from DS when he's still a baby?

I bet the neighbour is one of those people that think that DH is babysitting as opposed to parenting
" I was 'brave' for leaving baby at home with DH and her DH would never have coped hmm"

Honestly? So what is it the woman's job and the dad is a useless piece of furniture.

Bah. Dont let them spoil it. You had a wonderful time and DH got lovely bonding space.

Plan next outing. What will it be?

Remember: people will judge whatever you do because it is easier to do that than to look at their own lives. Ignore them

I had a very difficult time when my ds was little, my mum came to stay for about 10 days and she actively kicked me and Dh out of the house to go get something to eat when ds was about 2 weeks. We were probably gone about 90 minutes in total and as ds was bf it was between feeds. My dm was right though and it did me the world of good. Don't feel guilty at all

YANBU. I couldn't wait to go in the evening once a week when DD1 was tiny. It was lovely to be able to concentrate on something without being on the alert for my (much loved) baby all the time.

I have a 9 month old and love leaving her sometimes. It's so intense it's nice to hangout with people without babies and not talk about babies

Everyone is different. If you have the support from your partner to have that down time, then go ahead. A release and happy mother is a good mother. Don't worry about them. Ignore and carry on. X

Absolutely fine. As a pp said, if you're happy, dh happy and dc happy, who cares what anyone else thinks?

I didn't get any time on my own until dd was about 8 months old (due to breastfeeding amongst other things). It was only later I realised how much that had affected my mental health. When dc2 arrives I will be making sure that there's a little time set aside every now and again to enable me to be me, not just "mum"!

I was back at work full time by the time DS was 4 weeks old. I really wouldn't worry about it!

Nope not weird! I left DS with my parents when he was 2 weeks old and DH and I went for lunch. Everyone was happy! I also assume I left him with DH several times, I just can't remember. I was bf (with the odd bottle) so I wouldn't have been able to go 5 hours. But I would've done if I could!

No matter what you do there will always be twats who judge you. I was getting judged recently because I haven't yet left 6 month old DD overnight.