Busy vs Lazy weekends

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I am sure I have seen post about this but really can't find them now.

Kids both knackered after a long week at school. Me & husband also tired after a long week of work.

I really don't wanna "do" anything at the weekend, maybe a bit of batch cooking & cleaning, but I feel like we should go out even if it's just to the park for an hour to get the kids out.

AIBU to expect the kids to stay in all weekend & play (they could play in the garden if they wanted) just so I don't have to go out?

Kids are 4 & 5. Eldest would watch TV 24/7 if we let him, youngest is happy to get all the toys we own out & play.
Eldest does ask if we can go out somewhere, which is annoying as often on a Fri we have tears as he's tired & doesn't want to go to school! (He sleeps great at night so that's not the issue!)

Can't help but feel lazy and like I'm not setting a great example for the kids!

Our weekends are filled with rugby, although I try to have a few hours sat & sun afternoon where they just chill out playing the xbox/watch some tv or read a book/study, although my son would play rugby from the second he woke up until bedtime.

Most of our weekends are lazy (no planned activity), but we always go out at least for 2-3 hours per day. Football in the garden, digging in the sand at the playground (while I sit down an read, coffee in travel mug), scootering around on side streets, blowing bubbles, .... whatever we want to do. We have full waterproof gear (trousers, coats, hats, wellies, gloves), so don't care about the weather. Kids need downtime (unstructured play), but ds4 and us prefer to go outside.
He is born outside the uk, and midwifes, gps etc always reinforced to us that babies and children need to go out every day as long as they are not critically ill, so he is used to go out every day - not a chance of staying in now!

I think it's fine to be lazy at the weekend but i personally would go stir crazy, as would the kids, without at least one short outing. For example yesterday we had a quick trip to the park and today we all went to Sainsbury's. Elder DS also helped DH wash the car-I do like them to have some fresh air unless weather's foul.

I didn't spend weekends shopping, nor did I have lots of activities. So I'm not sure there's a correlation either way.

We all like PJ days in this house, but I don't do two days together like that unless someone's ill because it seems to result in more petty arguments at home. I also don't think it's good for them to not be seeing other kids at least a bit. I wish kids played out the way I did as a kid. I don't think they need a special trip somewhere, just not to be kept ensconced in our own little world for the whole time.

My weekends have definitely become more unstructured lately, since DS (2.5) seems to have become more of a homebody. I work 4 days per week, and he is with grandparents one day, then at nursery 3 days. So by Saturday, he just wants to stay inside and play. This is in contrast to a few months ago when he just wanted to be outside ALL the time.

It does worry me to be honest, because I feel like he could do with more outside time and exercise. However, he often takes a lot of convincing to go out without a tantrum. By Sunday/Monday it is a bit easier. However, he does play really nicely inside and is really engaged with what he is doing, so I'm trying not to stress too much.

Our weekends tend to be home-based and fairly unplanned, with little trips out eg. park, supermarket, library, soft play etc. Plus chores, cooking, cleaning etc. I usually go for a run on Sundays while DH and DS chill at home. Summer weekends are usually busier.

I wouldn't say weekends are lazy though. Inbetween those little trips out and chores at home, I'm pretty much on the go the whole time. DS wants to help with everything, even cooking and washing up. This means everything takes twice as long.

In the winter we have many weekends at home. We have everything here!
We live in the south east. Every attraction that you go to is rammed. Unless you arrive at ten. We don't want to. You cannot get parked, the queues are horrendous yada Yada. Plus you pay through the nose for this shite.

The parks are not great. The playgrounds aren't great. The library is well stocked for kids and adults alike. If we do go into town, again, it's too busy. We end up in a buffet restaurant if we go out lol.

I would love the weekend to be Monday Tuesday and less people to be off. 😂🤣

When I was little we didn't have activities every weekend. Quite often we just played at home with our toys/ in the garden. I feel sorry for parents now, everyone's so knackered but you can't be seen to just chill out and do nothing.

Don't stress, timealone. Maybe he just doesn't like getting cold! It doesn't seem to bother DS (or DP), but I HATE being cold and always have.

Our weekends were always for family fun stuff. Both parents worked during the week, so sat am our parents asked us what we wanted to do and then we would spend one day doing grocery shop, DIY, gardening, watching a film as a family and then the other going to theme parks, water parks, the lake, sailing, having friends over for sleepovers anything we wanted really.