Expecting number two and scared.....

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Using AIBU for traffic really but I do have some AIBU questions. I'm 32 weeks pregnant with number two and have a two year old. I'm very scared about how I'll cope with two. I have a husband and nice house but not many close friends nearby. My family are 45 mins away but have pressures on their time.....too much to go into here. DH parents are about hour away but you know what it's like with in laws.....SILs wrapped up in their own stuff. I know I will cope as people do but I do feel vulnerable. I've got four more weeks of work and feel so tired already. Work is stressful and support is sporadic. I just feel like I'm plodding along and no one really listens to me. AIBU to want a few hours to myself....to bond with unborn baby? I feel everyone wants a slice of me but I don't get much back. I'm always first to phone people if they are unwell etc....but been ill all week and just my mum has called. I know I sound immature and precious but I'm so tired and everything seems much worse. Hubby is great at practical stuff but can't remember last time he suggested we do something together. I try and talk to him but he's interrupted by work, phone, toddler. So in a few weeks there will be more pressure on us and I'm scared. Scared about less sleep. Toddler doesn't sleep great but we get a reasonable amount each night. I'm scared about trying to breastfeed with a toddler to entertain. Scared about getting out of house with two! Scared about MIL reaction to Baby name as we are using a family name as middle name. Scared about c section. Worried about worrying and just feel like the world is spinning and I need to get off for a few hours......

Do not worry or panic, the best thing about child number two is that child number one will entertain/distract/play with number two! And watching the lovely moments when siblings are cuddling and kissing and having fun together completely make up for the more 'difficult' times!

I had 17 months between DC
Worked really well - they were close enough to be playmates
Even now as adults they are v close
Better for me in terms of childcare etc as they are only a school year apart

Sweetie - totally normal. I had twins a month after DD1 turned 2. I found a dress-up box (with hats, scarves and gloves and random shoes, weird clothes from a charity shop (washed several times)) to be a brilliant way of staying connected with my eldest while busy with the twins. She learned some great skills as well - like learning which shoes go on which foot, zips and buttons, etc. She would crack up laughing when she dressed in silly combinations of clothing. I'm sure if your eldest is a boy you can do something similar.