Not to tell DH I might have norovirus

[CactusFred]

So I just had to pull the car over and vomit. Lovely I know! Felt a bit off all day but carried on anyway.

Anyway DH has a real vomit phobia and would immediately start to panic that he will get it etc.

We are supposed to go away this weekend for his birthday and DS will stay at my mum's. If DH knows I've vomited he'll quarantine himself and DS away from me and refuse to come near me until 48hrs clear which means no weekend away.

Chances are I'll be fine by tomorrow anyway and he never needs to know (unless I puke again and he hears).

On a selfish I don't want to have to put up with him stressing for days and for his sake I don't want him to miss his weekend away as we are doing all things he likes etc.

AIBU keeping it from him if I can?

U2 I'm also an emetophobe and your son will never trust you again if he finds out

Also having experienced it as badly as I did, with long term effects, that's even more reason to avoid it and rage at people who don't care. And imagine if I gave it to my mum who is desperately ill...doesn't bear thinking about.

Sorry OP but YABU. I'm an emetephobe and I'm a single parent. We all caught noro at the same time and it was absolutely awful. I was that bad i had my ex coming in to help me and look after me and the DCs. I just couldn't function and we all spent the very miserable time fighting for the bathroom.
If it is noro, I doubt you'll be feeling better in time for your weekend break anyway.

My Mum had a friend who ended up spending a week in hospital on two drips she was that dehydrated when she caught noro off a family member. The family member had been feeling dodgy but visited her anyway and it made her very poorly

I'm an emetaphobe and have OCD. Some things I'd rather not know. Then I can't fret and worry unnecessarily about it.
Even so, I'd like to be warned / told about possible noro so I can take precautions. I quarantined myself yesterday as I was quite poorly (just horrendous stomach-ache) until it had passed.

Hope you're better soon OP

I'm emetephobic too and totally agree that you should tell your husband. Your Mum too.

If you don't then you are being very unreasonable indeed.

If it's Norovirus youl be to ill to go anyway and he will notice !! Or any really bad sickness bug. From my experience these come on very quick you go from feeling normal to feeling dreadful.

If you feel ok now is put it down to something you are or something mild . So I'd maybe sleep on it but wash wash wash your hands and no kissing etc !!

Ate not are

I wouldnt tell him unless youre sick again. Its like telling a hypochondriac that you can hear them breathing funny or something - no need.

Norovirus is a nasty nasty bug! If you really have it there is no way you would be able to hide it from your dh! And as a pp said it is likely to start suddenly and will affect both ends-violently! So it may be that you have a mild tummy upset, and for your sake I hope that is all it is. Good luck!

I'm not an emetaphobe but I had terrible health anxiety especially around food poisoning / noro and I wouldn't tell your husband unless it's not a one off and you're sick again.

I know I'm going against the grain of most posters here but if I think I've come into contact with anyone with bugs like this it triggers massive anxiety which turns out to ben unfounded as most things are one off. So I would rather not have the stress and be in blissful ignorance

If you've got it, you'll already have given it him! If you're fine tomorrow if keep stum! My dd was sick other day out of no where had to keep her off school next day and she was fine literally 2 hours after!

Chel, not necessarily, he could still avoid it.
If it's noro there's the 48 hour rule too so OP should def not go away for weekend and spread it about.

Thanks everyone. You've opened my eyes to how it must feel to have the phobia that's for sure.

I've not been sick again so I don't think it's Noro. The feeling of gippiness I had all yesterday has gone too.

Hopefully that's that.

And I've told him so he's avoiding me!

If you're not sick again it won't be Noro. You will bloody know about it if it's Noro
Just forget about it and enjoy your weekend!

yabvvu. You should be using separate towels from rest of family (was advised to do this by a doctor to help prevent it spreading) and stay away from them as much as possible to stop them getting it.

Good on ya Cactus. Hope it doesn't return.

U2 I'm also an emetophobe and your son will never trust you again if he finds out

Ok, so it's best to be honest, but what do you suggest I can do to help with the panic he will feel after? I want to protect him from it but I most certainly don't want to lose his trust.

His came about because he thought he killed his dad. He had cancer, but someone stupidly told him when he was very young that if he was sick he could kill his dad. When he died he thought he might have had a sick bug and killed him. He has had professional help for this and he did get better, but he is going downhill again.

I am going to get him help again but I thought it seemed much kinder not to give him more of a reason to panic and not eat. It's difficult.

U2 your poor son. Good luck.

How are you now OP?

A phobia is something imaginary.
Norovirus is real.

If he has a phobia of vomiting, it will be put into real perspective if he gets it.

Glad you told him.

I'm an emetophobe and I would be furious to have someone I live with to conceal sickness.

I have coping mechanisms (I mainly bleach the shit out of everything) but it helps me stay calm and feel a little in control.