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To consider moving schools

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Wormwoodm · 02/02/2017 11:23

I know this is going to be a long one but I need some advice.
My ds is in year 1 at a very small village primary school. My dd is in early years in the same class (very small age gap)
Anyway, on paper the school is great, I can walk to it, teachers seem fine, pro active head, good ofsted. The issue is my ds has never been happy there. He says he has no friends. His year group is made up of 4 boys so socially is quite limited. At the moment a boy is making his life a misery. It's so hard as we are friends with his parents but he won't let my ds play with him, rips up his work and laughs. My ds loves sport but he says he doesn't want to take part anymore as he's fast and the other kids chant cheat because he wins. This one boy, who is making him come home crying every day, is being very manipulative and telling his mum everything that is happening, but telling her it's another boy in the class. I spoke to teacher and she has witnessed the boy "being mean". My ds keeps begging to move to another school where he could have some friends. I don't know if its a great message to show him if he doesn't get on with people he can just leave but likewise, he seems like that school just isn't right for him.
My dd is fine there so isn't the school. Is my ds too sensitive or should I look elsewhere, we are rural so lots of schools all quite close together and non are oversubscribed.

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unfortunateevents · 02/02/2017 12:36

Speaking about kindness and values is all very well, but what did the teacher actually DO when she saw the other child ripping up your DS's work? It seems the time for general class talks passed some time ago.

Wormwoodm · 02/02/2017 12:37

I agree

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AwaywiththePixies27 · 02/02/2017 12:39

Moved both of mine. The best thing I ever did. They are both so much happier now.

You know what's best for your DS OP.

downwardfacingdog · 02/02/2017 12:46

Oh I wouldn't worry about giving him the wrong message. I think moving schools would give the message that if he has a really big problem that he can't fix himself, he can turn to you for help. I think that's a pretty important message for a 6yo.

HPandBaconSandwiches · 02/02/2017 12:46

Just move him.
Your DS needs to know you have his back. He's scared and unhappy at school to a serious enough degree that he's come and asked to move schools. If it's at all feasible, let him move, show him you believe how awful he's finding it. Show him you won't let that continue.

HarryPottersMagicWand · 03/02/2017 10:52

This whole thing has changed how he is. Sod the school talking about kindness, too little too late. Let your son be happier elsewhere.

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