Baby Shower

[Treaclex]

Hi here goes one sister is expecting in March other sis suggested a baby shower clearly not my thing as I have 3 DC and have avoided them like the plague yet I'm being roped in. I've just been asked to chip in to hire a room £95 then on top of that I'm expected to chip in for food and decorations costs. Now I've made plenty of suggestions to cut costs like free room hire as I envisage me being left to foot the bill, the venue, food and guest list. Now I'm getting a tad pissed off and ready to throw in the towel after all it wasn't my fucking idea so AIBU to just tell my sister to sort it herself and that I'm out ?

I think you need to be blunt and tell them that you can't afford to spend that much on a baby shower.

I'd take along something small as a token gift though.

The last baby shower I went to was held at the Mum to bes house, organised by a friend as that's the only space that was free and convenient. I think there were a couple of bottles of bubbly, and some banners up. I definitely wouldn't be paying £95 towards it.

Meet in a pub, cafe, bar or restaurant.

Again, the original idea for these was to have a simple gathering of family and friends bringing gifts of necessaries for a soon to arrive baby. Usually arranged by a close friend or relative in their home in the afternoon for only very close family and friends, lasting a couple of hours, simple basic refreshments often potluck style. But no, these days unless it's some huge expensive blowout EVENT with everyone involved getting stressed about arrangements, venues, food, drinks and associated costs, bigger and better than mum to be's down the road, the mum feels resentful and cheated. It's ridiculous OP, you don't have to go along with it.

Just wanted to say a big thank you for all the advice given. Just received some bad news about my beloved dog which trumps any stupid baby shower so I'm definitely bowing out.

Sorry to hear about your dog

Sorry to hear that

Thank you much appreciated.