Are me and dh in the wrong with mil?

[MadJeffBarn]

Dd (5) needed a new carseat. Mil offered to buy one a few weeks ago. We don't actually drive, but we have friends who do. We desperately needed one today for the babysitter and my mum wasn't able to drop off hers in time, so we just bought one. Mil is now in a strop because she wanted to buy one. We tried explaining that we needed one asap, but she's now blanking us?

MrsDustyBusty Eh?
Only one being aggressive is MIL with silly ignoring.
The OP needed a car seat pronto , or would you have had the child sit unsafely/illegally just to placate MIL?

Did the mil know when the car seat was needed?

What does she say you should have done instead?

Mil blanking you?
Sounds ideal!!

What a load of nonsense!

Is it that she wanted to pay? Or pick the seat?

Let her give you the money if she's that bothered, or you keep the one you bought for one off journeys and let her bugger off and pick her own 🙄

Shocking levels of aggression towards the mother in law Where? All I've seen are suggestion that her sulking is ignored.

My MIL used to do this, OP, promise us stuff (Oh don't buy those plates, you know I'm going to give you a dining set) but would never do it, but get pissed off when we bought things ourselves because we really needed them.

Let her cool down for a while, then explain.

I don't see the MIL's problem, it's not like she bought it, told you as such and then you went ahead and got another one, secondly, it's a car seat fgs! it's not something sentimental or emotional priceless object. If she wants to ignore you let her, you've not done anything wrong and I wouldn't bother with explaining, you've explained already, it's hardly a complex situation that requires careful treading!

Jinxxx, the MIL hadn't bought a seat, it was the OPs DM that had one, which they were presumably going to borrow.

You're not in the wrong - how long did she intend to wait .. until your dd is 15 - you needed it there and then and you bought it - she needs to get over it and grow up - either give you the money back or invest in something else which you need - silly woman she is

She is silly - ignore her attention seeking behaviour!

What matters is dc has car seat, if she wants to contribute great, if not JOG ON!

Why didn't you say yes when your MIL proposed to buy one?

It's not like anyone has suggested twatting her with a spade, is it now.

I laughed.

Judging by the maturity of her behaviour it sounds like you need a second carseat for your MIL, OP.

She's needed one since booster seats were declared illegal. I had been borrowing my mums, which wasn't ideal as she also uses it for my nephew when she has him and sometimes they clash. So mil offered to buy one before Christmas, for Christmas, we said great thanks! She knows the situation and I guess we got bored of waiting. Unfortunately I'm terribly un-confrontational so I just didn't push for it.

I didn't know booster seats were illegal < irrelevant, I know>

YANBU. If she offered before Xmas that over a month ago.

Booster seats are NOT illegal. If you already have one you can continue to use it. It is illegal to SELL one.

YANBU

Bizarre response from your MIL. Not great that she stepped in and offered to get you something that was very much needed and then...didn't bother.

Your MIL had at least three distinct camps of response to you buying one yourself:

a. apologise for not getting one sooner and offer you the money for this one
b. ignore it and the fact that she offered in the first place
c. blank you and become all ridiculous over it

If this kind of behaviour is a one-off for you MIL then I would make the effort to discuss it with her kindly (well, encourage DH to do that). If she has form for manipulative and childish behaviour then I would completely ignore it and distance myself from her.

There'll be a bidding war for the film rights for this....

Of course YANBU though. Needs must & all that

Sorry! Yes, I did misread the OP. I did RTFT though!