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AIBU?

Getting up to let the puppy out

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Bluebell9 · 31/01/2017 11:56

DP and I have got a new puppy. He's 10 weeks old. We have sorted out working patterns and leave so that the puppy has someone at home all the time at the moment.
Whoever is staying at home that day will go downstairs to deal with the puppy going to the toilet when the person going to work goes down to get breakfast etc.
This morning I woke DP up 5 mins before I went downstairs to iron my clothes for work to give him time to get up.
He didn't come down with me so I took the puppy out. It turns out the puppy doesn't like going out in the rain to go to the toilet so I had to walk round the garden with him until he had a pee. Then he did his 'I need a poo' sound so I took him back out as DP still wasn't downstairs.

DP finally came down and I could iron my clothes but by this point I was running late for work. I was annoyed with DP and said so. DP said I could have just put the puppy in the garden and shut the door and the puppy would have eventually gone.
My point is that if someone doesn't go out with him, we don't know if he has pee'd or poo'd and there is no one to give him praise for it which is important as he is toilet training or to stop him chewing things he shouldn't. Plus, if I hadn't walked round the garden with him, he would have just sat in shelter on the step until I let him in.

AIBU thinking he should have come down and dealt with the puppy as agreed or should I have just put the puppy out and left him to it?

Whenever I'm the one at home, I'm always downstairs to deal with the puppy so I'm not leaving it all to DP.

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Orangebird69 · 31/01/2017 11:59

Yanbu. He sounds like a childish lazy twat.

DJBaggySmalls · 31/01/2017 12:02

Your DP is wrong. Shutting the puppy out will just make him distressed at being shut out and want to come back in. Or make him too independent.
you are supposed to take him out and praise him when he goes outside. Otherwise how is he supposed to know thats where his toilet is?

Its the same as potty training a toddler, you sit them on the potty and praise them when they use it.

Katy07 · 31/01/2017 12:02

You're doing the right thing. But it may not please you to know that my dog still doesn't enjoy going out in the rain for a pee, not if it's heavy rain. There are still times when I have to go outside with her i.e. before bed when I know that otherwise she'll get me up in the night

Bluebell9 · 31/01/2017 12:52

Thanks, I didn't know if I was being precious about the pup as DP implied I was.

Going out in the rain doesn't bother me luckily! Although it might have been why DP took so long to get downstairs.

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Booboostwo · 31/01/2017 13:36

Your DP is wrong. Unfortunately someone needs to go out with the puppy and wait until he goes to the toilet otherwise he risks becoming distressed. If the puppy gets distressed about being outside you will have massive problems with toilet training.

AyeAmarok · 31/01/2017 13:39

Your DP is wrong, for all the reasons stated in your OP! You're right.

He sounds a bit lazy.

However, we really need a puppy picture.

Bluebell9 · 31/01/2017 15:16

He's doing really well with his toilet training so I don't want him to go backwards.

Picture of my little cutie

Getting up to let the puppy out

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FlyWaxSleepRepeat · 31/01/2017 15:17

Yeah, my advice? Don't have a child with him.

NootNoot · 31/01/2017 15:20

You are right. DP is wrong. Cute pup

HappenstanceMarmite · 31/01/2017 15:20

You are right, he is a lazy shit wrong. Lock DP out in the rain until he sees the error of his ways

Bluebell9 · 31/01/2017 15:20

And my DP is normally really good with him. He's been doing training, he sits on command already, and he takes him out for socialisation etc. He just doesn't like getting up in the morning!

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7SunshineSeven7 · 31/01/2017 15:37

Bit off topic but this stood out to me:

the puppy has someone at home all the time at the moment.

When the time comes that someone won't be home at all times is this going to be a realistic stretch of time?

Your DH is BU. Raising a puppy is a full time and joint effort - is he going to be so reluctant to walk the puppy or pick up the poo? Or training?

(By the way he is adorable!)

WayfaringStranger · 31/01/2017 15:45

You are right. He is wrong. Puppy is gorgeous.

AyeAmarok · 31/01/2017 15:48

Thank you for the photo!

He's absolutely gorgeous.

Bluebell9 · 31/01/2017 15:50

7SunshineSeven7 My DP works shifts but I work Mon-Fri. When the puppy is older, my parents will walk/play with him for an hour during the days that there isn't someone at home which works out about 7/8 days in a month.

DP is just as involved with the puppy as I am, he is just bad at getting out of bed in the morning.

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7SunshineSeven7 · 31/01/2017 15:56

Oh okay, glad you've got a plan :) I was just worried as its so close to Xmas he was an xmas pup IYKWIM.

Bluebell9 · 31/01/2017 16:02

No, he wasn't an Xmas pup. We've been wanting another dog for a while as my old dog died last April but we waited for the right one to come along.
I think DP just had an off day but I wanted to make sure I wasn't being overprotective with my gorgeous pup.

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BiteyShark · 31/01/2017 16:02

Yes you need to go out with them otherwise you will never know if they have been.

It's bloody horrible especially in rain or when cold but you have to do it.

I can let my dog out now and just watch from the window but in rain he does still sometimes need me to be outside to encourage him to go.

HappenstanceMarmite · 01/02/2017 00:35

My old German Shepherd hated the rain. I'd put her outside and she would not move, just stare mournfully up at me, blinking away each raindrop with great exaggeration 😂

Bluebell9 · 01/02/2017 11:01

Talked to DP last night and he's agreed with me. I think he felt bad as he cooked me a delicious dinner and gave me a back massage!
He was up early to sort the pup out this morning.

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