Flakey friends cancelling a hour before we meet up

[MedwayMumoffour]

I don't think I'm BU so not sure why I'm posting here but I guess it's more AIBU that I'm finding to hard to keep caring.

So I have a friend, been friends for six years, used to see each other weekly at a kiddie play group or at least every six weeks if the kids weren't attending the play group.

Last year she has a series of disasters and cancelled 90% of meet ups. I didn't see her for six months at one point. I was quite upset at the time.

Anyway disasters are now over but she's still cancelling again. All very last minute. I was all ready to walk out the door on Friday but sent her a quick text to ensure it was still on, she replied with a last minute broken finger. It may or may not be true. But there wasn't and never is a option to see her at her house any more. I haven't been invited for over a year. She can't drive but husband works 30 miles away so it's around to do school runs, no local family and kids need driving to school.

She is lovely, I enjoy her rare company. I did decide to stop contacting her last year but it's her keeping suggesting to catch up. I think I'm just her back up and she has cancelled because she's had a better offer.

Could it be social anxiety related? I have a similar friend who cancels last minute but I think she just gets so worked up she can't face meeting. I tend now not to count on her for meet ups but still text etc.

I'm not sure. She used to be ok up until about 12 months ago and didn't seem anxious before. We don't do a lot of texting, just around meeting up. She's always been one to keep some things to herself. Like she's twice moved houses and only told me once it's a done deal so it's not 'I am looking at houses and think this might be the one' which is more the kind of small talk I would text updates on.

I think it's just not adding up. She's free, it's not contagious. I should have offered to go over and see if she was ok but but my first reaction was that it was made up. Which I feel guilty for