So lovely to read these, I thankfully have this kind of relationship with my dds.
My own mother however was cold, moody and cruel, so we had no idea what a loving, caring mum was like apart from glimpses of it with other people's mums.
She regularly used to tell me never to get married or have children as that would ruin my life. I believed her until my 30s when I met my dh.
I went on to have 4 dc and couldn't believe the overwhelming love I felt for them! She of course totally disapproved and has never been a warm granny in them, preferring to go on a cruise 3-4 times a year to avoid any christmasses or their birthdays!
So I take my dc out on 'granny days out' myself so that they don't miss out !
You are all very very fortunate to have had beautiful experiences with all your mums, I try and muddle along, making it up as I go and sometimes it is hard because my own experience was so horrific.
Thank you for all these lovely posts, they are inspiring x