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To just stay in...

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elodie2000 · 29/01/2017 09:15

How often do you stay in all day/ all weekend and not leave the house?
We all work/ go to school Monday to Friday and we all have a busy schedule.
More & more often, when the food shopping is done, we don't leave the house at the weekend at all.
We all potter around cooking, watching films, doing the washing, lazing around, reading, doing HW.
AIBU to not make the effort to go anywhere?
We were always out and about when DC were younger. (Teenager DC here now.)
AIBU to think that we all need these days at home or am I just being lazy?

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elodie2000 · 29/01/2017 10:09

Eminy I think that's the thing! I do feel guilty! So many things to do and we're not doing any of it... Although, during the holidays we go away, see family & far away friends, visit places... So we're not all bad I suppose!

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minion246 · 29/01/2017 10:11

I'm battling this at the mo. My dp works full time and I'm a sahm with 4 kids. Weekends we don't do much as dp wants to relax and I feel like I'm going nuts and these walls are closing in on me!!! Dp hasn't got the energy as his job is very manual. I would love to go out with as a family or even get a babysitter and go out with dp but money is tight as well so nothing seems possible at the moment :(

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elodie2000 · 29/01/2017 10:18

minion That's hard. Are your DC school age? How many do you have with you during the school day ? Can you do all the going out stuff in the week with the DC you have with you and put aside the weekend for relaxing/ watching films with DH & the children?
I think it's best to go with it at whatever age the DC are at! I can understand your DH wanting to stay on after being at work all week - that's me right now... BUT I remember the feeling of claustrophobia when I had young DC!

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Lilaclily · 29/01/2017 10:23

Oh minion I hear you

I've recently gone back to work full time
We're all out of the house at 7.45 and back at 5.45 so at the weekend we've just been chilling but I remember being stuck in alone all week with the kids and at the weekend wanting to go places with dh ( he has the car for work in the week ) but he just wanted to chill after working all week
The rows we used to have about it

kateandme · 29/01/2017 10:25

you should never need to ask hun.not things like this.if that what you can do and choose to do then that means it perfectly great to do.go for it.enjoy.xx

INeedToEat · 29/01/2017 10:28

Not only do I spend all weekend in the house but I spend it in bed !

Kids are 26 and 14. We will usually go out to eat Friday or Saturday night but other than that we laze about reading/watching films.

ReturnoftheWhack · 29/01/2017 10:35

This thread gives me hope! DC 5 and 2 here and weekends are exhausting trying to keep them entertained, even if we're in they need a lot of supervision and guided play. I can now live knowing hopefully that they get to a stage where they bloody lie in and lead independent lives!!

minion246 · 29/01/2017 11:16

My youngest goes to nursery till 12 everyday so I'm quite limited on what we can do and then all she wants to do it eat and then sleep. Things will improve when she starts school in September as I will hopefully be working in school hours which would get me out the house and then I would b great full for a relaxing weekend lol. Thank you for your compassion :) makes me feel like I'm not the only one :)

Mrsglitterfairy · 29/01/2017 12:47

Nah, we love a lazy weekend. We both work full time, I do most Saturdays too so when Sunday comes round we enjoy chilling out. Not every week, some weeks we'll go swimming or to the park but most of the time, especially now while it's so cold and miserable we're happy staying in. DSs will play iPads / laptop, we'll play board games together, do homework, watch a film, read etc.

zukiecat · 29/01/2017 18:02

DC grown up now and one moved out at the end of last year

If I don't have to go to work (15hrs a week in local shop) then I don't leave the house at all, I don't even bother to get dressed and I have health issuers so I sleep a lot too

heron98 · 29/01/2017 18:05

I would hate that. I feel the rot set in after about an hour of being in the house.

But if it suits you, go for it!

OnTheUp13 · 29/01/2017 18:27

Sundays are our "at home day". In our house there's me, dh and dd 18 months. DH works FT MONDAY to Friday, I work part time, Monday to Friday mornings. People like the ILs or DB etc visit for a few hours but apart from that we catch up on chores, watch TV, read etc

Birdsgottafly · 29/01/2017 18:38

My teens wouldn't move out, so I left them in, my Mum lived five minutes away and I had good neighbours.

Seven years later, they now, on occasion, bring it up, but if I'm well, I like to be out.

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