To suggest reasonable visiting regime?

[Jenbob13]

Ok, just want to check that I am not being a total diva here before I open mouth and stick foot straight into it.

I am 36 weeks + 1 day preggers, work 40
hours a week (trying to squeeze as much mat leave in as poss!) and generally feeling the third trimester grumps of tired, backache, can't sleep etc. I am also spending a lot of spare time at the hospital visiting a much loved family member who has an inoperable brain tumour and who is deteriorating each day.

My issue is this:
My DBIL, his wife and manic toddler (my darling niece) come round every bloody Saturday night from like 6pm - 10pm (yes, they are arriving shortly) for a general visit. AIBU to ask if they wouldn't mind maybe popping in on an afternoon or night through the week? I know I sound like an unsociable pig but my Sat nights are sacred to me, for binge eating curry wearing jogging bottoms with said curry stains on and watching absolute shite on the tv, not running round making endless rounds of PG tips and making conversation with a woman who i'm fairly certain has hypochondria.

I know I can kiss ass goodbye to my sacred Sat nights once my LO is born but i'm ready for that, and at least I don't have to change my joggers and put a bra on.

I have asked DH to drop hints at them but he just thinks i'm being unreasonable.
So just wondering if i'm being a total cow before slipping into convo tonight that next week would be better for me if they come during the day?
Its not even like they ask if we are busy, they just ring DH and say "be at yours in 10 minutes".
So AIBU?

Yes take yourself off to bed. I know some people might think it's rude and expect to be waited on even though they're family but they can always take themselves home.

You might want this routine - a chance for some child friendly adult time - before too long! By all means call a halt for now but Don't burn your boats! You'll be on mat leave, buckets of time, might enjoy a reciprocal visit (but why is it always at yours?! )

hopefully you have a TV in your room?!

Why does she need a TV when she has us here? Just go to bed and give us live MN updates.

I am sat here trying to discreetly read these replies but finding it very difficult not to burst out laughing! God you lot have made this bearable.
Ive dropped a couple of "please piss off" hints, such as "what time do you usually put DD to bed?" and "god ive had such a long day, im knackered".
You will all be pleased to know I haven't actually made a brew yet. Think DH can sense i'm not in the mood because he has brewed up. Once like, but still brewed haha.

I also have my stained joggers on. Feel very rebellious this evening.
On a serious note, I am going to just mention as they are leaving that it would be better for them to come in the afternoon in future as 8pm is my new bedtime due to near birth and all! I will keep it light and nonchalant and hopefully they wont get too offended. Its weird because I have a totally different relationship with my family, like I am totally comfortable turning round to my own sister and saying "dont even think about knocking on my door after 7pm you imposing cow" and we would both laugh and that would be the end of it haha.

You need to set boundaries NOW because when baby arrives you'll have enough to be doing. Otherwise they'll think 4 hour visits in the afternoon are ok. Just say you're not going to be up for entertaining for long visits any longer so if they want to visit they can call next Saturday afternoon for an hour.

They are being rude by arriving at 6pm every Saturday night and expect to be waited on for four hours while you are heavily pregnant. So it would be perfectly reasonable to just announce you're heading to bed. You're working 40 hours a week, your weekends are sacred. To hell with them. Suit yourself and head off to bed. Don't suit them.

Really, really hope that you've made yourself a and fucked off to bed OP

Do not let this become a full on habit. My lovely mil and fil had family visits every Sunday night sometimes until after midnight. It was constant feeding and drinking despite the fact mil and fil worked full time and had three kids. It lasted 40 years!

Take yourself off to bed. Now. Still working and 36+ weeks is your excuse, not that you need one.

Bloody hell.that needs nipping in the bud..don't they have a life? Or are you it?

Def agree with taking yourself to bed. Im in my pyjamas in bed and im not even pregnant. Just knackered for some unknown reason. You have way more excuse

What time did they go OP?

How did it go?