I can find men hot. Really sexually attractive. But after a few dates I either decide I just don't like them in any way so stop contact or I really like them but the attraction goes and we just end up as friends. I can find the thought of having sex with a hot man appealing, but don't like kissing any of them.
The only time I've ever had any genuine feelings was with guys I met through work as I was with them 5 days a week but I kind of feel that that was because we were forced together and if I'd met them on a night out and went on a date I wouldn't be interested.
I stayed with my ex for two years. I never once fancied him and it was a terrible thing to do to him. I just never had any sexual attraction to him but he seemed a good guy so I stayed.
I have met many men in my life. I am 27. I've lived with men, had male friends, male work colleagues and while I sometimes get a slight infatuation for men I spend a lot of time with, it always goes once I've stopped living/working with them and I realise the attraction was only very shallow and based on physical attraction. It's almost a friend infatuation where I love spending time with them and get excited to see them.
I have been on hundreds of first dates and never once had any chemistry with anyone.
My friends have always said it's normal, I just haven't met the right guy. But I'm not sure this is normal and infact I should have been in love by now.
My friends say I probably have really liked someone but just haven't recognised it. But I'm sure I haven't. I've just accepted I'm probably not going to fall in love and accepted I never get feelings.
I'm not asexual, I have superficial sexual attraction to men. I just don't fall in love with them.
AIBU to just say I have never been in love with a man, probably never will and I am happy to be this way and wait to see if the right man comes around?