AIBU about my daughters nursery?

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My little girl turned three in December and started the local nursery the week after that so she has been there 6 weeks or so.

I've not been too impressed with it so far, it's a bit grubby and letter communication is poor with them forgetting to give me letters but hey ho, nothing major.

I went in a couple of weeks ago and couldn't see my daughter and staff weren't sure where she was but I found her in the toilet and I spoke to her about asking the staff for help but she said she didn't like to. I had also spoken to staff and told them she was just toilet trained but might need help.

I went in today and again couldn't see her, I went to the toilet and she was crouched down behind a cubicle door hiding as she had had a pee accident on the floor (first accident at nursery, she's done well with very few accidents).

My issue is that I have no idea how long she was there. Staff didn't notice she was away either. I spoke to them twice about the floor and they said they would get the janitor to clean it up later until I pointed out the kids were walking through it, I even offered to clean it myself.

It's been a while since I've had a child at nursery as my eldest is nearly ten and I don't have incredibly high standards so am I unreasonable to be a bit concerned?

Does she need to go right now though? If she's only just 3, she's got a whole other year of preschool before she starts reception.

My DD was 4 in October and didn't start until this school year, because we were living abroad until last summer. I'm glad; she wouldn't have been at all ready right after her 3rd birthday.

mrsfumble being fair, it's not her age that's an issue. The nursery will be the same even if she is 4

Also, I'm in Scotland so maybe it's different in England but generally they go when they turn 3

That's true, and I agree that the nursery sounds a bit rubbish. But in a year's time she might have the confidence to go and tell a teacher / ask for help if she's had an accident, rather than hiding in the loo alone. Which might set your mind at ease.

She will be more advanced in a years time I agree. But I don't think it's enough of a reason to keep her off nursery for another year because she had one accident.

She will also start school at 4.8 so if I leave her another year then it's a short nurser year followed by school IYSWIM??

That's a shame, the council nurseries are generally pretty good. Would it be worth while trying to change it from within so to speak!

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toot what do you mean, change it from within?

Since you're kind of committed to that one (due to the school situation) raising your concerns with the nursery and maybe joining a parent group (if they have one) or offering to go in to do stories etc (our nursery is always asking parents to do this) if you have time off work could help to improve standards. If you feel it's justified, you can complain higher than the nursery staff. I know in our case the primary headteacher is also in charge of the nursery, might be worth speaking to him/her.

That doesn't sound good enough to me. Our preschool allows children to go to the toilet on their own but they know where everyone is. Eg I picked ds up on Wednesday and as the member of staff opened the door to me she called through to the toilet, 'xxx do you need any help?', then when she had handed over ds she went to check too. So the kids think they toilet themselves but are quietly very supported by staff.
I think the rules have changed so that at a private nursery you can use more of your preschool hours on one day than you used to. Could you use your funded hours at a private nursery preschool for a couple of days a week? Completely agree with using the funded places even if you are home some of the time, my 3 yo and I definitely both benefit from it!!

I wouldn't think twice about moving my child.

3dogs I did that with a private nursery with my first so I am thinking I could go back to there and she could attend on my days off when I can take her. The cm wouldn't be able to but that's no big deal.

toot I can see where you are coming from but going to volunteer in the nursery isn't an option. I like the couple of hours without kids, not spending time with 15 more lol. And I don't think that is something this nursery do any way.