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AIBU?

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To not have him come with me?

54 replies

Mrbluethecatt · 25/01/2017 17:03

Sorry it's a bit long.

I work with a man who is a more senior member on our team at work than me. We work in projects that last at least 6months at a time.

He (the Senior) was given 2 projects last year which needed to be worked on continuously with a big report written at the end.

Our Boss asks for updates at team meeting going round saying how you are getting on etc.

The Senior has been saying at these meetings everything is going great. However just when these projects need completed he goes off on sick. So our boss asked me to pick up the projects eg tart up the report that should have been written. Only problem was I couldn't find them. The files were empty. Problem was that as Senior was off sick, boss can't ask him about ongoing work encase it stresses Senior out.

Long story short I had to work extra to essentially do the work of 2 6 mnths projects in 6days. Not fun. Boss was impressed I managed.

Senior came back today and discovered I had completed his projects and the Boss has given me credit for them. I'll be presenting them to management. This is a big deal for someone of my level.

Senior has had a go at me saying I have shafted him. I had stolen his projects etc. I told him to speak to the boss about it. It was his decision. So I told my boss after that, that senior had a go and suggested they talk. Boss later was in his room with senior I can only guess talking about the projects.

After that senior came over and offered to come to the project presentations with me to 'help out' I just mmmm him and said I'll let him know if I need help.

Aibu to say no to him coming with? I didn't use any of his work and did it all myself and I'm worried he will try to make out that he somehow was involved in front of management. He has form for sneakily trying to take credit, big himself up in front of management. Management who are essentially all all boys club type of thing.

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happypoobum · 25/01/2017 18:42

YANBU. He will definitely try to take credit - you will be sent off to get the teas.

Oh I have had this happen to me and I was LIVID.

Tell him you are happy to do the presentation yourself and you are sure he has plenty to catch up on after all his time off, so he shouldn't worry himself about your fucking work Angry

picklemepopcorn · 25/01/2017 18:44

I think lougle is saying withdraw the work and let him present his non existent work.

lougle · 25/01/2017 18:46

Sorry, yes, heavy sarcasm Blush Let's face it, if he'd done the work, it should be all but done and he should be able to produce it with barely an adjustment needed. So if I came in and found this situation, I would have gone to boss and said "Oh no, what an idiot I am for saving it in the wrong place, but here is my report, ready to go!" Then surely, boss would call both colleagues together and say 'this is awkward, let's sort it out so you both get credit for a job well done'.

The clear reality is that colleague hasn't got anything to produce, or at least not enough to run with. Because nobody in their right mind would complain and not produce their evidence!

DontTouchTheMoustache · 25/01/2017 18:54

I would be interested to know if he actually had done any work and just not saved it in the right file. Really that would just be out of curiosity and to know whether I felt he was justified in his opinion that you "shafted" him.
But you worked incredibly hard and he will definitely try and make out that he did the bulk of it and that you tidied it up or something so I wouldn't invite him to 'help' you unless your boss absolutely insists.

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 25/01/2017 18:55

Poobum, too right !

OhSuckItUpDucky · 25/01/2017 19:00

I would do what Lougle suggested

WatchingFromTheWings · 25/01/2017 19:01

You did the work without his input so you should do the presentation without his input. Then sit back and take the credit! Sounds to me like he'd not done the work.

Strongmummy · 25/01/2017 19:06

SuburbanRhonda, yes I'd still be bloody fuming. I would of course have a lot of explaining to do as to why I hadn't saved the work properly, however if I had completed the task with a view to presenting I wouldn't expect to be cut out of the process just because I was off sick!! Also I am shocked that the OP managed to complete the task in 6 days when there was an original timeline of 6 months. Either the senior is a totally incompetent project manager, or the OP was purely putting together the final presentation of month's of work completed by the senior. Anyway, it's the boss who needs to make the final decision as to who presents, not the OP

FeliciaJollygoodfellow · 25/01/2017 19:29

Strongmummy he's not being cut off because he was off sick, he's being cut off because he didn't do the work (or near as dammit).

FeliciaJollygoodfellow · 25/01/2017 19:30

And the boss has made the decision, the other senior has approached OP.

Mrbluethecatt · 25/01/2017 19:40

I'm just about to leave work.

I spoke to boss and senior. Checked with boss to see if report can be changed before presentation on Monday. It can.

I suggested we switch out the reports his for mine. Doing this type of work is good experience for me anyway. Boss disagreed. My report stays. Project entailed research then coming up with workable policy. I suggested we meet tomorrow to look at both reports to see if seniors policy was better than mine. Boss said no. Boss essentially wants mine to stand. Fair enough.

Senior wasn't happy (which is fair). Senior insisted as it was assigned to him, management would be expecting him and would be disappointed to get me instead.Hmm

Senior expected to present my work under his name no matter what. Boss was very firm with his disagreement. It became clear that something else is going on between boss and senior. I don't want to be piggy in the middle.

So I'll be presenting my work on Monday.

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Strongmummy · 25/01/2017 19:48

Fab news OP. I hope the presentation goes well.

Sugarpiehoneyeye · 25/01/2017 19:52

That was very generous of you OP.
Well, the boss has spoken, wonder what's going on there then ?
Hope the presentation goes well, and you get the recognition you deserve.💐

TheFlis12345 · 25/01/2017 19:55

Given that it sounds from the OP like senior has form for this, I imagine your boss is now wise to his tricks (and damn sick of it!) so standing firm this time in the hope it will stop it happening again. Well done!

ImperialBlether · 25/01/2017 19:59

So what's the senior guy saying about what happened to his own work?

GeorgeTheHamster · 25/01/2017 20:01

Good. You did the work, you take the credit. That's how you'll climb the greasy pole. He wouldn't help you out, would he?

(Also - did he actually do any bloody work at all, or was he off sick with self-inflicted stress having not done any?)

FrancisCrawford · 25/01/2017 20:06

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DJBaggySmalls · 25/01/2017 20:06

Good luck with the presentation. Your boss understand what you did to finish it on time. Your colleague doesn't have a leg to stand on.

Valentine2 · 25/01/2017 20:07

I could have written your OP. Been there done that. It only causes problems. Takes your credit away essentially.
Do not do this no matter what. Your work, your talk.

JaniceBattersby · 25/01/2017 20:09

Senior hasn't done any work, has he?

A six month project would surely be complete a few days before the deadline so he could present his own work but clearly boss knows he has done fuck all.

I'd be as gracious as I could towards him OP, because he's clearly going to get the old heave ho soon enough and you don't want to be seen to be dancing on his grave. Be smug at home though. Really smug.

lougle · 25/01/2017 20:11

Very magnanimous of you, and the right decision by your boss Smile. Now you can present your work with a clear conscience, and your senior has no grounds to levy claims of a sideswipe in your direction: you offered to withdraw your report; you offered to conflate the two reports; boss has stated that you present your report. Nothing else to be done. Flowers

WatchingFromTheWings · 25/01/2017 20:16

Good for you! And glad your boss is supportive too.

Mrbluethecatt · 25/01/2017 20:19

Senior never actually said if he'd done the work. Boss did most of the talking.

DH has suggested emailing boss tomorrow confirming our meeting, what I suggested and confirming it's the boss's decision. Just to cover my back.

I don't know why the timeframe was 6 months because it seemed straight forward and the policy obvious to me. My projects are a small part of my overall work which is why they take so long. I only spend a day or two a month on them. Senior seems to have only had these projects to do.

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Mrbluethecatt · 25/01/2017 20:21

Watching I just hope boss isn't using me as a way to push out/piss off senior.

Fuck that shitGrinWink

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emmyrose2000 · 26/01/2017 02:02

It sounds to me as though Senior hadn't done any of the work, and he pulled a sickie just at the time he knew he'd be found out (not sure how he expected to get away with it).

Your boss has likely figured this out, as it's possibly part of a long term pattern/problem.

Whatever the truth, at least Boss has your back which is a good thing.

I agree with your DH to email Boss confirming the meeting details o Monday. It's always best to cover your own back, no matter how close your are to the finish line.