soooooooooo fucking mad is he bu

[stealmyhappiness]

posting on behalf of my friend, her ex left her unexpectedly whilst she was on maternity mid last year (we think he was cheating but do not have solid proof) he has just told her is is claiming he earns £12,000 a year to csa, it would work out she gets £4 a day for their child. he is self employed and we know he earns more than this, he spends at least £4 a day at starbucks and has the latest unessential technology.

what is annoying me more than anything is he posted on social media he does what he does for his daughter! he is university trained and could earn more than that with no qualifications working at my place on a basic wage! if he did what he did for his daughter surely he should be earning a decent wage to support her rather than doing a low paid job because it is what he enjoys.

i just needed to vent and see if anybody has any suggestions, he sees their child twice a week so she is not withholding access. is he being unreasonable???

Thing is if he is deliberately filing low accounts to avoid CSA and tax he's also screwing himself over, he won't be able to get a mortgage on a £12k income and I'm not sure he'd find it that easy to rent either, unless he's in a house share...which isn't ideal for a newborn/young baby. Perhaps your friend should point out these things and ask how he intends to provide a safe environment for his child.
Some people wont respond to the 'moral' issues around providing for their kids financially or even paying tax (whole other argument) and actually the ultimate aim is to make him step up and be a responsible parent. He can't do that if he's in prison for fraud or paying off masses of back taxes etc so perhaps your friend could point out the logistics of his plan

bollocks to him, let him live in his fantasy. His shitty behaviour will annoy someone equally as shitty one day and he'll have his karma. Like clark says he won't be able to get loans/mortgage saying he earns pittance. Sadly he'll probably lose interest in the child too.

just a little update, i think karma has come to bite the bastard on the bum! he has posted a blog post for his business detailing his depression over the last six months (since the split) apparently it has got worse over the last 2 and this seems to coincide with the other woman unfollowing him on social media and no longer commenting on his pics. he has thanked this person for their support and mentioned he lost his support network over the last 2 months. coincidence i think not.

i am fuming he would post this after all he has put my friend through and am so tempted to comment, my friend has not mentioned anything on social media but he is making out he is a victim!

to reiterate, he left her when she was unaware there were issues in the relationship, she offered to go to counciling and he still left!

Is he self employed/ small business or similar? My ex earns most of his salary through dividends. CMS don't ask HMRC for that info as standard, you have to tell them to ask for it. (Ridiculous of CMS but there we are!)

thanks, he is self employed, she will be going through cms now regarding the money.