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To think my DH is being a dickhead?

63 replies

Irritatedmama · 24/01/2017 20:31

So, my idiot DH didn't want to come around the supermarket with me earlier so waited in the car with the kids. I was about an hour or so. He left the radio and air con unit on the entire time and surprise surprise when I got back the car wouldn't start!

He claimed to have no idea that sitting for an hour with the air con and radio on would drain the battery ( who the hell wouldn't know this?!?!). So we had to wait another hour for the breakdown people to get to us and jump start the engine.

He then dropped me and the kids home while he drove around to charge the car battery.
I put away all of the shopping, fed kids, bathed kids, put kids to bed, packed nursery bags for tomorrow, put away laundry and made dinner. He has just walked in the door and told me that he doesn't need dinner as he got himself a burger while out!!!

I've just got annoyed at him and he is nowsulking upstairs as apparently I am being a cow ( not his exact words but that's the gist).
Apparently this was not selfish of him because when he asked me earlier what was for dinner I said I wasn't hungry right now. We had just eaten sandwiches while waiting for the breakdown van. So according to him this meant that 2 hours later it was ok for him to get himself food without even bothering to check whether I wanted anything.

I now have a cottage pie in the oven that I don't bloody want and that I busted a gut to make because I thought he was hungry.

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SansComic · 25/01/2017 06:47

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Chloe84 · 25/01/2017 06:47

OP, hope he does his share of housework/childcare?

Catlady1976 · 25/01/2017 06:50

I regularly sit in car with the radio on for an hour and never drain the battery.

ATruthUniversallyAcknowledged · 25/01/2017 06:54

I think @SansComic would like an hour to herself... Wink

Op, why were you all at the supermarket? If the kids fell asleep would they not have been better off at home? Surely it makes more sense to divide the tasks? One of you responsible for kids, one for shopping?

SansComic · 25/01/2017 06:56

Ha! I would.

I also reported the posts hoping they (but one) can be deleted

DameSquashalot · 25/01/2017 08:00

They were on their way back from somewhere and popped to the supermarket

melj1213 · 25/01/2017 08:27

They were on their way back from somewhere and popped to the supermarket

An hour long trip round the supermarket is not "popping in" - that's a proper shop. If I'm popping in on the way home, it's a five minute whiz round for milk/bread/

BitOutOfPractice · 25/01/2017 08:35

More than an hour in the supermarket?! What were you doing in there?!

Sounds like a really bad use of everyone's time!

longdiling · 25/01/2017 08:47

Yes it all sounds unnecessarily stressful and chaotic. I would have told dh to drop me off and go home with the kids to start on the list of chores you talk about. Wasting an hour sat doing nothing when you have all that to do is bonkers!

I also wouldn't have made a cottage pie for dh when I had all that to do and didn't want one myself. You did say you weren't hungry so I can see why he just grabbed himself a burger.

BarbarianMum · 25/01/2017 08:55

How could he have helped with the shopping if the kids were asleep in the car? Were you planning on leaving them there alone, or were you thinking that dragging two tired children around a supermarket was going to improve your shopping experience?

Sunnyjac · 25/01/2017 18:03

GunnyHighway I don't appreciate your tone. Just because your 19 years as a mechanic haven't equipped you to deal with every car, don't take it out on me. In my car (Mondeo) I can turn the ignition to position 2 (engine NOT running) and have the air con on. Sorry this does not conform to your limited view. By the way, any helpful feedback for OP?

Whisky2014 · 25/01/2017 19:16

I used to fucking hate being left in the car whilst my mum or dad went to do something. They were always longer than they said theyd be. It was often down to their shit planning. You both need to plan better, you need to give your husband a real answer about dinner next time youre asked and you need to stop martyr-ing yourself. Tidying the house and making a pie for him, i cannot get over that. This thread has really annoyed me. And stop leaving your kids in the car for over a sodding hour.

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