To wonder if it's still possible for me to get married and have a baby?

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36 on Saturday.

Come on. I can take it

Of course you can. Definitely date online-
I agree with advice upthread to meet them really quickly, date lots at once, and keep an open mind.
Basically, don't put all your eggs in once basket-even if you meet someone you think might have great potential, don't turn down a date with someone else. Cut no-hopers loose fast, and don't take any of it personally!
If it helps, I know several truly awful people who have managed to get married and have children. It cant be that hard!

Oh, also, it might be worth getting your fertility checked, so you have a rough idea if you have tons of eggs left, or not.
Knowledge is power!

If it's really what you want, actively sort out having the baby first. You only have limited time for that!

I had my only child at 39, a friend had her first at 40 and second at 43. If you really want to be a mum and can afford to on your own get on with it and worry about getting married/meeting someone later. Unfortunately you might come across as desperate if you meet someone and start talking about having kids straight away so might frighten them away.

I have 3 good friends who all met their now dh through online dating, they are just having babies now age 36-38yo, its def possible but online dating ime is a numbers game, you need to be going on 1 or 2 dates every week

Believe in yourself, tell yourself 'I am beautiful, my prefect man is out there!'

Yes possible. I know someone who got married at 40, then two years later gave birth to twins!

I don't think I would rush into lone parenthood at just turned 36..
Look, yes, some men you date might see a woman in the second half of her 30s and think you are just after his sperm, but the right man will also be looking to get married and have kids, and will think its good you are both on the same page.
When women come over as "desperate" is when really they just want a sperm doner. You want to the whole deal, and so do lots of men out there (somewhere!!)
I say all this because its not all that easy to date aggressively as a lone parent (although I gave it my best shot!).
Babysitting can be sparse and expensive, and incorporating a husband into your existing little family unit can be tricky too.

Mum dated dad at 41 and married and baby by 42. She was introduced by his aunt who she worked with - bit of a blind date

I met my now DH when I was 39, been together 12 very happy years now. Unfortunately children didn't happen for us, and I'm far too old now, sadly.

Met DH when I'd just turned 36. We now have three lovely DCs.

Hey. Met DH at 38, dd1 and dd2 by 40. They are 11 and 13 now, can be done. Met on night out with friends btw, friend of a friend, got talking etc. Had totally given up hope. Hope you find what you want.

I met DH through OLD, and I know at least 3 other couples who are the same.
You have to go for it, send a few emails back and forward, then suggest meeting for coffee.
You will know after a coffee if they have potential or not, if you go for a morning or mid afternoon then you can extend the date to lunch or dinner.

Within a few weeks we had a conversation "What are you looking for? Do you want kids, if not there's the door, I don't have time to waste? Are you serious about me?"

I think that conversation took DH by surprise but it at least meant we both knew we were in the same frame of mind and looking for the same things.

No-one can really answer your question in any meaningful way. We can answer a similar question; i.e. 'Is it possible to find a husband and have a child after the age of 36?' - clearly it is - but nobody knows about your fertility, your relationship history, or your attachment style, all of which will be related to how likely you are to form a successful relationship and fall pregnant within the next five years or so.

Sorry if that sounds negative, but I just don't see what you gain from hearing anecdotally that so-and-so did such-and-such - apart from possibly false hope - when all these women have in common with you is their age and gender.

Having said all that, obviously there are aspects that are within your control, such as your willingness to get out and meet people. Good luck with your search!

FWIW, I'm 42 and at 36 was still very much hoping to meet someone "in time". I didn't, and I still haven't.

Get on tinder, date date date three or four dates a week. I met my DH at 35, married and had a baby at 36 couldn't be happier

I'm a bit scared of tinder! Thanks for such lovely and supportive, above all encouraging messages

Met DP at 36, first baby aged 42, second aged 43. You have time! :)

I think there's quite a lot of dead wood on Tinder.

Met at 36. (at a tennis club)
Married at 37
DS at 39
DD at 41

I hope you are right. I'm single at 31 after 4 years with the man I want to marry and have babies with. Keep being told I have plenty of time but...

I met my dh at speed dating. I had my ds at 39. Never give up hope!

Met DP aged 35, had DS aged 37, DS2 aged 39 and were getting married this April just shortly before my 40th birthday. Never expected it really, thought the chance had passed etc...and then 😊 More tired and more poor than I've ever been...but also happier!!

Your still young.

My mam met my stepdad at 42 wedding at 43 and baby at 44.

Said baby is now 16 and they are as in love as ever.

My friend met her DH, married and had a baby all within 3 years. She's now 30 but it's not an age thing. No reason why you can't do the same at 36. Men of all ages are out there waiting to be snapped up and wanting a baby. My BIL is 28 and I know he would love to settle down with a family. (Is 28 too young for you? Haha)

You're only 35 (just about) - remember that!

I'd honestly try to enjoy your life as much as you can now. Try OLD maybe but if it's not for you don't worry. Get out as much as you can with your friends and do the things that make you happy. And you may meet someone through those things, but maybe not. Life's too short to spend it pining for what you don't have. I know it's easier said than done but I think dwelling on it makes it worse. If in two years time you're still single then maybe go down the route of having a baby on your own if that's still what you want. And in the meantime save etc to let you get to the point where you're ready to go for it. Having a definite plan/timescale might help you put it aside for now.

Yes of course but you have to be pro active. Youve said you find online dating intimidating, your friends are coupled up and you wont meet anyone at work. You cant go out in clubs on a weekend raving and mis behaving. So online dating is your best shot. Everyones nervous on their dates, its only going out on them thay will give you confidence.

Prince charming isn't going to coming knock on your door. Get out there girl!