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To consider re homing my dog? :(

55 replies

brokenheartdog · 24/01/2017 16:19

Have n/c as dd knows my sign in name.

Please do not flame me.

We have had our dog since she was a puppy, she came from someone we knew who has sadly since passed away so no chance of return to the breeder, we love her enormously and I have been so lucky as I have mostly worked from home so she really is my companion.

I have been not been feeling myself for the last six month but as a single working mother of children one of who has additional needs I have put it off and off. I eventually got to a point that I couldn't ignore it any longer and went to the doctors who referred for tests. The tests came back and completely blind sided me, I don't want to go into massive details but the result of which has snowballed into regular hospital attendance, tests and treatment.

At the moment I am completely exhausted and can't seem to manage anything, I took the dog for a short walk early and was utterly exhausted, our lovely girl has ended up repeatedly in the kennels both during the day for day care and overnight so that I can go to the hospital or such and this is likely to get worse, she hates this and has become very stressed and pulling her hair out and has started to get upset at home if I just leave the room which she has never bothered with before . I am also reaching a point where now I am unable to work the cost of the kennels is putting a huge strain on me too.

I am also scared of what might happen in the future, if I can make sure she gets a good home without having to go into kennels and I am scared of reaching a point if it came to it of HAVING to re home her at short notice and her having to go into kennels..

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KitKats28 · 24/01/2017 17:01

To be honest, I wouldn't have got either of my much loved rescue dogs if people in similar situations to yours hadn't rehomed them.

I'm sorry for your illness. As long as the rehoming done properly (through a rescue or similar) I think it's the most sensible option.

FurryLittleTwerp · 24/01/2017 17:03

Agree Cinnamon Trust is very good.

ExitPursuedBySpartacus · 24/01/2017 17:05

I follow a specific breed rescue on facebook.

Many of the dogs are in for rehoming because of illness in their families. They live with a foster until rehomed (although many fosterers fail).

Good luck and hope you start to feel better soon.

OhSuckItUpDucky · 24/01/2017 17:06

Utterly heartbreaking for you OP what a dreadful decision to have to make
only you can decide what's best for her

LizzieMacQueen · 24/01/2017 17:06

Maybe a Mumsnetter could help, whereabouts roughly are you?

Headofthehive55 · 24/01/2017 17:07

The younger your dog is the quicker she will be rehomed so now might be sensible, and best for her.

SarfEast1cated · 24/01/2017 17:07

I think you have to do what works for you. You sound like you are struggling, and it's stressing you out. Your dog may be rather confused if sent to live in a new place, but dogs are really adaptable and will make the most of a situation. It will be heartbreaking for you I know, but it might be the best for both of you. You need to be kind to yourself. Flowers

PollytheDolly · 24/01/2017 17:07

You are being a responsible dog owner. End of. I hope pooch finds a good home soon Flowers

sanityisamyth · 24/01/2017 17:10

I rehomed mine to friends. Also had her since a pup but when H and I separated I had a 1 year old and working full time to deal with so poor doglet wasn't getting enough attention or exercise. It wasn't fair on her. She now has a much better life and is much happier.

FuckOffDailyMailQuitQuotingMN · 24/01/2017 17:11

My family would be able to take a dog for 6 weeks at a time. We don't have one because we are away too often but we signed up to borrow my doggie so that we could have the odd dog during term time.

There must be other families like us around, even on Borrow My Doggie.

Do share more as happyflappy has suggested.

Best of luck for good health and a good solution Flowers

MrsJayy · 24/01/2017 17:12

Oh lovey I'm sorry you are going through this re homing would be best firstly for your dog and you the extra stress and worry about the dog on top of everything is something you don't need

vjg13 · 24/01/2017 17:13

I have a long term Cinnamon Trust foster dog, it is a great organisation and I hope they can help you.

Lemon12345 · 24/01/2017 17:14

If your health condition is likely to be quite long term then I too agree that rehoming the dog, assuming your DD isn't old enough to care for the dog, is the best option. As PPs have said, dog's trust is usually good, as are most (but not all) breed rescues. Check out rescues on facebook and talk to breeders of your breed to make sure the rescues are good ones. Or speak to friends and family and see if anyone else is happy to give the dog a home.

If it's not long term then might be worth contacting local small rescues and seeing if they 'foster' the dog. You agree to pay food for example and a small donation at the end and someone else does the day to day with the dog until you are back on your feet. Or even someone local enough who might be willing to take the dog for occasional days and out for walks. It might be worth a try if you really want to.

I don't think there is anything wrong with trying to rehome your dog, and I normally hate this sort of thing. You aren't getting rid of her because she's destroying your house or something, you are trying to find her a suitable home because you can no longer meet her needs and she is getting very upset and stressed about it. Stay strong and I hope things work out for you.

Januaryblews · 24/01/2017 17:14

You sound very sensible OP.

ThinEndOfSlipperySlope · 24/01/2017 17:21

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myusernamewastaken · 24/01/2017 17:32

Op where are you based....I dont want a dog full time but would be more than willing to help out if you are in my area (norfolk)...I would happily look after her in my home until you felt better.

Ginkypig · 24/01/2017 17:35

You are thinking about your dogs (who you love) needs and that is what being a responsible pet owner is!

As others have said there are pet fosterers who may be able to help if this is a short(ish) illness that you can recover from. If it's appropriate it might take the pressure off.
My friend who was admitted to a mental health facility after a very bad time had her cats fostered for in the end 6 months, she was given some names of fosterers from the social work department.

I'm sorry your going through such a tough time op. It must be really hard to have to consider giving away your pet because your too ill to meet her needs, it's really shitty for you.

Original poster
brokenheartdog · 25/01/2017 09:18

Thanks all for being so kind.
In answer to questions. I honestly don't know long term if I will be better or not.
I'm worried about her going into foster or such and disrupting her again if I'm still not well enough months down the line.

Our girl is a 2.5 year old whippet girl, neutered, dog friendly, child friendly but not cat or small animal friendly.

I'm on some of the whippet pages and am going to contact Just Whippets Rescue and CT.

We are near Manchester

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Soubriquet · 25/01/2017 09:22

No OP

Yanbu

Sounds like the dog being rehomed is the best outcome for all involved

Take care of yourself Flowers

Screwinthetuna · 25/01/2017 10:47

Its an added strain you don't need, as well as affecting the dog.
There are rescue centres that are very good and will only rehome to the perfect family. It's very sad but it's time to put yourself first and anything that lessens your stress levels is worth doing, IMO Flowers

TrionicLettuce · 25/01/2017 12:31

OP would you mind letting me know who bred her, just initials or a vague location are fine if you're not happy posting the full information. You're close enough to me that I feel compelled to check if your girl was bred by my late friend.

Breed specific rescue wise there's also JR Whippet Rescue who are definitely worth contacting.

StarryIllusion · 25/01/2017 13:38

I'm normally the first to condemn the op in these threads but I really don't see that you have any other choice unless your dd can take over? I would just make sure it is a no kill shelter.

CMOTDibbler · 25/01/2017 13:45

If the whippet specific rescues can't help, then EGLR may be able to - I've seen a number of dogs where the owners just couldn't look after them anymore for reasons no fault of anyones, and I know the rescue are very sensitive to this. They can arrange transport to the foster home, and I know whippets tend to get adopted very quickly but in the meantime they will be in a family home getting loved.

e1y1 · 25/01/2017 13:56

I usually get really annoyed with people that post these threads, but in your case you have a valid reason. However it would be very sad for both the dog and your DD (and probably for you too) so I would still try The Cinnamon Trust first, even having a chat to them may help and they may give other good advice if they can't help. Best of luck.

Exactly this, I too really do not agree with rehoming, however, you do have a very valid reason, so do contact the Cinnamon Trust.

Sorry you're unwell, and hope you (and dog) will be ok Flowers