Morning,
Basically, I live with my sister for various reasons. We've lived together for just over 2 years. It's been challenging, to say the least, mostly because she's pretty lazy and I'm too eager to please. I find myself v resentful and i'm probably hormonal but I needed other opinions on it all.
Since the beginning, I've done all the cleaning. It started off with me doing it because I didn't mind but it's moved onto being something that's expected of me. I cook, I wash up, I clean, I pick up after her, I fetch and carry and some days, it feels like we only live together so that I can do things for her.
I've tried suggesting that she needs to pull her weight but it always turns into an argument and she says that she pays the rent even though I pay all bills and food, she works harder, she works more hours and if I don't want to do it then I shouldn't. It's reached a point where she does v v little and when she does do something, I'm expected to be grateful.
Recently, I've become more resentful because she has started OLD, which means that she's constantly glued to her phone and if she receives a message, she will pick her phone up mid conversation with me and start ignoring me in favour of that. It's really starting to get me down and saying anything would result in a huge argument.
I think it's about to come to a head soon due to the fact that I turned the tumble dryer off last night, because it'd had been on for over an hour for one average load of clothes, and she checked it this morning and decided it was all still wet. So it's gone on again and been on for nearly an hour again. What a waste of electricity. I agree that it was probably petty but she has no regard for what electricity, gas for heating and food cost.
This turned into a bit of a moany rant, so apologies, I guess I'm just looking for reassurance that I'm not just being whiny and also, maybe, suggestions on how to bring all this up to her without it turning into a huge, resentful argument.
Thanks