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Fat shaming at work?

51 replies

Fletcherl · 21/01/2017 09:23

I work in a place with a communal kitchen area. There are a few full timers and mostly part timers. One person is on a low carb diet and is zealous. Yesterday someone else brought in a bar of chocolate to be eaten up as they are also on a diet.
During the day lots of staff ate a few squares of chocolate. Last thing the low carb dieter took the chocolate wrapper and stuck it to the wall. They highlighter the nutritional info and added post its. They said stuff like ' how much did you eat?'
Is this out of order?

OP posts:

MiladyThesaurus · 21/01/2017 10:02

It's not 'fat shaming'; it's being a diet-evangelist wanker.

Rest assured that no one feels ashamed of having eaten some chocolate and everyone thinks the low carb colleague is a total arsehole.

ChocolateCakeandSprinkles · 21/01/2017 10:03

She sounds like she needs to get a life! I think that deserves a post it from everyone that did saying how much and how delicious it was!

PastysPrincess · 21/01/2017 10:05

It is shaming of sorts, not necessarily fat shaming though. The implication, by asking how much you ate, is that you should be ashamed eating something with this nutritional content.

In anycase it's totally unnecessary and not what she is there to do.

Dagnabit · 21/01/2017 10:18

Aw, I feel sorry for the woman, have you tried low carb? I'm very bitter when I don't get bread. I'd be tempted to eat half a loaf of buttery toast next week

Deathraystare · 21/01/2017 10:21

They sound a total bore, frankly.

harderandharder2breathe · 21/01/2017 10:23

It's not fat shaming as she wasn't singling out fat people. She was being an utter twat though

PavlovianLunge · 21/01/2017 10:24

It reeks of smugness and superiority, but fat shaming? I'd say not.

LaContessaDiPlump · 21/01/2017 10:25

BewtySkoolDropowt I was being facetious and borrowing a phrase from the feminist board - not all men are like that, or NAMALT. Sub in vegans for men and you're there.

I knew what you meant, don't worry - I'm not actually offended! Militant anything gives the rest of their group a bad name...

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/01/2017 10:30

Admittedly if they were pointing out allergens it would be a different matter - that's considerate, not twatty.

Presumably people with allergies aren't generally stupid or illiterate though? If they have allergies I'm sure they wouldn't need some smug cunt pointing out the allergens?

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/01/2017 10:31

On the plus side, whatever her motives, she's proven beyond all doubt that she's a cunt so at least everyone knows

TheFirstMrsDV · 21/01/2017 10:33

Its January.
Work kitchens are full of people boring on about carbs and sugar and wine and stuff.

I eat alone to avoid all that nonsense. I will go back in March when they are all back to being 'oooooh shall I be naughty' while eating something dreadful like a Rich Tea

No, its not fat shaming. Fat shaming is when you make direct or PA comments about an individual's weight or body shape.

Being boring about pseudo nutrition is just boring.

Lunde · 21/01/2017 10:37

I hate people who appoint themselves as the food police

LucklessMonster · 21/01/2017 10:41

This is why people are getting irritated with "shaming" phrases: because they're used totally inappropriately.

Niskayuna · 21/01/2017 10:46

What a wanker :D

I'd have left her a reciprocal note. "500 cals worth and it was fucking lush. Go eat your lettuce and be sad."

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/01/2017 10:48

I'd have left her a reciprocal note. "500 cals worth and it was fucking lush. Go eat your lettuce and be sad."

ButteredToastAndStrawberryJam · 21/01/2017 10:50

I wouldn't say it's fat shaming. Sounds like they're getting really pissed off on their diet, so took their frustration out on the chocolate wrapper but really wanted to break down and cry shouting, I want a piece of fucking chocolate.

Floggingmolly · 21/01/2017 10:51

How could it be fat shaming when she didn't know who ate it (and it was obviously multiple people)?? It's extremely virtuous and arsey attention seeking, obviously, but it wasn't aimed at anyone in particular.
Stop being so quick to find offence in everything. Nobody has been "shamed" by being seen to eat chocolate unless they've chosen to be.
Are any of the partakers actually fat??

SugarLoveHeart · 21/01/2017 10:53

It's a bit insulting to the nice colleague who brought in the chocolate. Not fat shaming really but unkind, I think.

CoraPirbright · 21/01/2017 10:55

Niskayuna

Tell us exactly what the post-it notes said, OP, and I will bet that everyone on here will come up with some excellent comments to add below what this douche has written!

HorridHenryrule · 21/01/2017 10:58

Does she know who ate it?

If she does and the person is fat then she is trying to shame her. It's not up to us to say wether she fat shamed her or not. It's up to the person who she targeted. You can't tell a person how to feel she may feel fat shamed or she ignored the silly woman.

LaContessaDiPlump · 21/01/2017 11:01

I think I'd point out an allergen in something where you really wouldn't expect one - i.e. fish products in lemonade (Burger King). Otherwise maybe you are right and it is a bit patronising.

HorridHenryrule · 21/01/2017 11:03

If the op knows who are the chocolate then so does she. She posted that she is also on a diet and brought it in to eat up. She is trying to shame her about eating a chocolate bar. How dreadful.

HorridHenryrule · 21/01/2017 11:07

Here's a comment for you my partner has said to me "Fat people should be turned away at McDonalds". I live with him I can't bring myself to look at him sometimes. It's to much that is really judgmental. I feel ashamed to be with someone who spends so much time looking at others.

LiviaDrusillaAugusta · 21/01/2017 11:16

So he's a knob and he's thick? You got the shitty end of that stick Henry

MacDonalds know that fat people may eat more therefore spend more money - I would struggle to speak to someone who didn't understand that principle.

QuinionsRainbow · 21/01/2017 11:18

Given the rate at which chocolate bars seem to be shrinking in size these days, would anyone come to any harm eating a whole one, let alone a few squares?

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