To think that DH should be doing more?

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I probably am BU, but would appreciate opinions, particularly from SAHPs.

I work full time, and DH is a SAHP. I often work from home, so am obviously aware of what he gets up to in the day. In general, comes back from dropping the DC off at about 8:45am, he will either do some food shopping, or a bit of cleaning (eg wash kitchen floor, vacuum the sitting room) and he will put a wash on/ hang it up to dry. Other than that he is watching tv, or on his ipad, until it is time to pick the DC up at 3pm. He usually is sat down for at least 3-4 hours a day. Today it will be over 4 hours. He then gives them their tea, which is something easy like frozen pizza or pasta.

Once I finish work I cook the evening meal, make sure the DC do their homework, and a couple of times a week do the ironing. The majority of the housework I do at the weekend (he won't do bathrooms or any cleaning upstairs) and the gardening.

Am I being unreasonable to expect him to do a little more during the day whilst the DC are at school? I appreciate he needs time to himself, and to relax, but when I can hear a film on downstairs and I am working, it is hard.

I'm a sahp with a school age child and a pre-schooler. I do all housework except his ironing, all household admin, all social organisation for the kids (parties, sports, hobbies etc), all cooking except if he fancies doing some cooking at the weekend.
I do all this and still manage to sit down with a cuppa and a book occasionally when my little one naps. Also I do all night wakings for both children unless I'm sick myself. I thought the point of having a sahp parent is so that the quality of family time at evenings and weekends is better? Apart from doing bits of DIY all our jobs are done in the week so we can have the weekends as quality family time.

Sorry my last post is unbearably smug, didn't mean to come across like such a knob! But your dh isn't pulling his weight really - sorry.

Yes he absolutely should be doing more.

If he sees it written down on paper, will that make it sink in? You could do a list of what you do and ask him to take over -the jobs you are less keen on so that you both have an equal work/life balance-

I am virtually a Sah. Do a small amount of self employed work but not regularly.
I have 3 DC. 2 at school full time. 1 doing 15 hours per week.
During the week and pretty much do everything. I am Also doing two courses. Although I don't clean as much as I should.
At weekends it pretty similar but dh does step up a little.
Your dh needs to step up.

I'm a SAHM with a toddler and wouldn't dream of watching a film in the daytime! I consider myself 'at work' from 9am-5pm, whether I'm playing with toddler, doing housework, household admin, food prep, meal planning etc. I take breaks but short ones, e.g. 15mins sitting with cup of coffee, an hour having lunch with a magazine while toddler naps. Until recently I worked PT out of the house so am still in work-mode. The way I see it, DH is earning the money, my responsibility is childcare and keeping house running smoothly. I sometimes delegate chores to him at weekend but try to keep on top of everything.