To not cut my sons hair?

[MadJeffBarn]

My son is 2, and has beautiful thick curly hair. It's down past his shoulders, but we get his fringe cut so he can see. Nearly everyone wants me to get it cut and it's really starting to get frustrating. His curls are baby curls, and I know that once it's cut they're not coming back, and I'm just not ready to let go of that babyness yet. It's not in the way and he doesn't mind it. My mil is the worst, nearly everytime i see her (which is usually at least twice a week) tells me it's needs cutting and I'm starting to lose my temper with it. His dad wants it cut too, but not like a 'big boy' haircut and doesn't seem to understand that once you cut the curls away they're gone forever. I even found out that my step mother in law had to stop my fil from taking him to the hairdresser themselves which makes me reluctant to let them take him out! I am funny with hair, I admit that, but surely this is my decision? It's not hurting anyone!

Aw prawns that's so sweet. Great way to get him to sit still though!

My youngest has beautiful coppery red hair and we kept it long. He could have had it cut if he wanted but he likes it long. He's 15 now and it's past his shoulders again after having it cut and donated about 18 months ago.

I'm not a fan of long hair on boys, I like a nice short haircut but why not come to an agreement with your husband that say, when he's 3 you'll cut it into a surfer style and take it from there

My ds is 13 months with beautiful blonde curls. It's only just past his ears but I've already had a few people ask me when we'll get it cut.

I know as soon as it's cut it'll be mouse brown and straight like the rest of us. He's my last baby and I want to keep him that way for as long as possible (and probably scar him for life in the process )

but surely this is my decision? It's not hurting anyone

Well no, it's your DH decision too so you will need to come to a compromise.

kay well yes I agree but somehow he only seems to have that opinion when his mum starts banging on. Otherwise it never comes up!

His dad is probably just pressured by your mil. Do you have a photo of his hair?

My DS1 is 20 and has curlier hair now than he did as a toddler. It was fine and wavy/curly then, now it's very thick and ringletty, and he loves it. Personally I wouldn't have your DS's hair cut now unless he wants it himself, but it's not a given that it will never be curly again.

I wonder why boys should have short hair, and girls should have long?

I wonder why boys should have short hair, and girls should have long?

Because "society" says/believes that boys' have to look masculine & girls' feminine, just like boys' shouldn't wear anything pink but girls' have to.

I had to tell my DHs family to pack it in with the comments eventually. But then they seem to be a family that think they can comment negatively to children and it won't actually affect their relationship with those children - cut it when you are ready or your DS asks. Tell family to stop commenting.

My 3 year old DS also has 'long' curly hair and is always mistaken for a girl. We do get his hair cut but it grows so quickly and it's back to being just past his ears now. I'm really not bothered about strangers saying 'she' and 'her'. He loves his hair and will often come up to me and say 'can you make my hair curly?' (It gets quite messy when he's slept on it so I spray it with water and scrunch it to get the curls back) I love his hair and literally couldn't care less what people think. The only thing that annoys me is when they tell me I need to cut his hair.

As long as your DS is happy, I'd not cut it. Obviously your dH needs to agree too.

well, DS just turned 5 and has never had his hair cut!
His got beautiful long curls and his hair is thick and super shiny, everyone comments on. He loves it and does not want to get it cut.
He is very pretty, still has puppy eyes and has long eyelashes too so gets mistaken for a girl very frequently, but he matter-of-factly says 'I am a boy'.