To not go this time?

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My DH's parents have a holiday cottage on the coast (UK). I fucking hate going, but every year I slog along at least three times despite repeatedly saying I hate it there. The kids love it, and so I always make the best of it and go for them. I used to live in the town where the cottage is, and it does not have happy memories for me. DH thinks I should by now be over this, but 10 years on I still can't stand the bloody place. I can just about bear it when it's nice and sunny, but January? FFS.

My dcs are 8 and 9 now. He wants to go this weekend. AIBU to say I'm not going, go on your own and take the kids. I'll stay home and catch up on the cleaning....

There's no reason why you should go if you don't want to. He wants to go, so that's fine. Stay at home (but I wouldn't spend all my weekend cleaning.)

Yes, say that. Stay home and enjoy some peace and quit.

Obviously I meant quiet not quit

Get on line and find yourself a spa week end!! Tell the kids to have fun with df and gp!!

Yes, stay at home, spend 2 hours getting it nice and clean, go out for a nice coffee and to buy a magazine/book, and nice bath products, and wine. Come home, light fire, read book with wine, enjoy relaxing bath and mini home spa, order takeaway of your choice and pick your own movie, sleep well in clean sheets and bed to yourself. Enjoy the cosiness of a lie on in the morning, have a nice breakfast of choice, take a brisk walk. Welcome home the family on Sunday with open arms and a wide smile, having had a wonderful relaxing time to yourself.

YANBU. It's reasonably clear you don't like going to the holiday cottage, so don't! That way all four of you will have a lovely weekend doing what you want to do.

No, don't go. YANBU.

Tell him you need some time alone this weekend, and pack him and the kids off.

You don't need to go every time, but if your DH and DCs love going you should make the effort occasionally.