Booster/Car seat AIBU???

[Tryingtostayyoung]

I'm really really angry but not sure if IABU.
DD and DN both go to my DM after nursery one day a week.
I got sent to a different office by work yesterday and it would have taken me nearly 45mins to get to my DM from there so I asked my DB if he could collect my DD with DN and meet me somewhere that I knew he was going which was much quicker for me.
Last night when we were about to go to bed DD all of a sudden told me that she hadn't sat in a car seat or booster in DB car. I'm really really angry, he has a car seat and booster in his car and if for whatever reason he wasn't able to put her in one I don't understand why he wouldn't have said, I would never put someone's child in my car with out a car/booster seat especially without making the parent aware. AIBU?

[PurpleMinionMummy]

I don't think yabu. There's no reason or excuse for it if he had one with him. I won't take kids without appropriate seats, not worth the risk imo.

[manhowdy]

I wouldn't put a child in my car without the appropriate seat (a high back not at a booster at 4 years old). It wouldn't even be a case of getting the OK from the parent...I would just refuse to do it.

But then I used to work in a job where I regularly had to read reports about personal injuries resulting from RTAs. I still have nightmares about some of them, the ones involving kids.

So in a way YANBU, but I do think that as her mother it was your responsibility to check he had the right seat available for use before asking the favour. As you can see from this thread, a lot of people will chance it.

[minipie]

I'm on the fence.

I think YABU to be as cross as you are considering he's done you a favour and no harm was done.

However, I would never put someone else's 4 year old in my car without a car seat. I might risk it with my own child in certain very limited circumstances, but not someone else's. Especially given he had a choice (i.e. he could have borrowed a car seat from DM). So YANBU to think he got it wrong.

Was his own daughter in a car seat? If so that would make me more

[shrunkenhead]

Thank you. I stand corrected. Yes if he had boosters he should've used them then. I'm guessing if it's the faffy highback ones that need plugging in etc he was being lazy and a cba.