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Do men just not wash their hands after using the toilet?

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Zumbumba · 17/01/2017 13:50

I'm so fed up. We've had several workmen in the house over the past few months, a delivery man and several of DH's friends - all of them used our toilet and didn't wash their hands after. AIBU to find this totally disgusting and unhygienic?! Why are there so many people who skip this step? Don't they feel unclean?

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alltouchedout · 17/01/2017 17:05

DH doesn't do it after a pee (DH pees with the bloody bathroom door wide open which I hate, so we're all very acquainted with his bathroom habits). Ds1 and 2 don't do it unless I happen to be near and force them to go back and do it. Ds3 is 2 and would spend all his waking hours washing his hands if you let him, he's recently discovered the joy of taps.

MeadowHay · 17/01/2017 17:13

I'm so [shocked] that people are admitting they don't wash their hands after using the toilet!! There needs to be a vom emoticon..do those of you who don't wash your hands be happy if staff in hospitals didn't wash their hands before dealing with you then? They have to wash their hands constantly and they get dry skin too, they're not just people with invincible skin, they just moisturise often as well to get by. I have eczema and get it on my hands during the winter but keep it at bay by moisturising regularly and applying steroid cream when necessary. I would rather have a bit of eczema on my hands than get norovirus or pass it on to other people .

This thread is illuminating!! [shocked]

SapphireSeptember · 17/01/2017 17:13

Someone upthread said urine is sterile, it's not!

www.sciencenews.org/blog/gory-details/urine-not-sterile-and-neither-rest-you

I also get dry, bleeding hands in the winter, I always wash my hands after I go to the loo. And because I see people leave without washing their hands I use a baby wipe to open the door. I may be weird, but I'd rather be seen as weird than get ill. And yes, my baby wipes come with me on the Tube as well...

LivingOnTheDancefloor · 17/01/2017 17:21

YANBU OP

To all the non-hand washers, good for you to not say "I'd rather take my chances with the wee wee germs" or my hands are sensitive, but basically you are spreading your wee around for everybody else to touch, thank you so much...
Do you know how many times we touch our face without realizing? Don't you mind knowing that while doing so you are spreading wee on your face from all the other people who used the same toilet than you and didn't wash their hands either?

I wash my hands every time I use the toilet.
I even wash my hands after touching the downstairs toilet doorknob because this toilet is the one used by visitors/builders/etc and I have also noticed that they don't always wash their hands.

LivingOnTheDancefloor · 17/01/2017 17:26

Sapphire I do the wipe/paper as well to open the door. And sanitizer on the Tube or after touching money.

goingonabearhunt1 · 17/01/2017 17:42

I do find it gross that people don't think handwashing is needed. Kinda makes me not wanna touch anything when out.

My DP sometimes doesn't wash his hands either and I've told him off about it before.

I have dry hands too but rather that than not wash after the loo.

zippey · 17/01/2017 17:57

I think there is such a thing as too much hand washing and sterilisation. Sometimes it's good to get mucky and catch germs to help your body immunise against them.

Personally I will was my hands after a wee with soap about 20% of the time, and with water only about 20%.

I wash with soap after a poo pretty much every time, but I do respect those who refuse to wash after pooing all the time. There can be a thing as being too clean!

CockacidalManiac · 17/01/2017 18:05

I wash with soap after a poo pretty much every time, but I do respect those who refuse to wash after pooing all the time. There can be a thing as being too clean!

That's revolting. There's a big difference between basic hygene and 'being too clean'. Do you not know how dangerous faecal organisms can be?

ItsThatBeverleyMacca · 17/01/2017 18:06

My DH does every time, soap and water. I'm emetophobic and pregnant so very cautious about getting sick.

I do find some public loos have sinks that don't make it very pleasant to wash hands though - if it's a cold day and the tap water is icy cold and there's crap (or no) soap and a crap hand dryer it's not a nice experience, better facilities would surely encourage people to wash their hands better.

Yura · 17/01/2017 18:50

i've been doing consumer research for a soap manufacture - about 40% wash their hands (gender difference isn't big!), and about 10% donit properly .....

GrandDesespoir · 17/01/2017 19:01

Urine isn't sterile and, even if it were, I don't suppose many penises are.

FWIW I think it's disgusting to use the loo for any reason and not wash your hands afterwards, and it makes me wince if I see someone leave public toilets without hand-washing.

Ilovetorrentialrain · 17/01/2017 19:04

zippey that's just revolting and ill-educated too.

Meluzyna · 17/01/2017 19:11

I always wash my hands after I've been to the toilet, before I start to prepare food, when i come home, after using a communal computer at work and if I have touched money.
There's a really disgusting public information filmette on the TV here at the moment which shows a bloke blowing his nose and chucking the tissue at the bin (in a shopping mall, I think). the tissue falls next to the bin where a little lad is playing with his action man type toy: action man kicks the germy tissue the the kid catches it wiht his other hand. Mum sees and picks the tissue up and bins it - before holding her child's hand. Final shot of child putting hand to cheek. They put some sort of colouring on the tissue when they filmed it so everyone watching can see that it's all over her hands and the child's face. GRIM.

Whisky2014 · 17/01/2017 19:15

I notice it and believe its a rarity if they d9 wash.
I know my partner doesnt and i tell him to go wash. At a previous place of work the walls were thin in the toilets and you can hear the hand dryers in the other toilets...in the mens they rarely ever went off (no hand towels in there btw) and over xmas i had about 6 male family members round and i noted the sink was dry and hand towel not wet :s i really do think they rarely wash their hands.

Whisky2014 · 17/01/2017 19:18

No wonder every one gets colds etc. Fucking disgusting.

OhtoblazeswithElvira · 17/01/2017 19:21

pee is sterile
Mmm do you fancy a cuppa pee then?

VenusSurprising · 17/01/2017 19:24

Why are workmen and delivery men using your loo? Mine aren't allowed as we have a pub nearby they can use. I always point them to it after one guy pissed all over my bathroom floor, the loo and bath mat ffs, and left the seat up with drips all over it. Filthy bastard. I swore never again.

Are you in the middle of nowhere in which case they can pee into a bottle

Just tell them they can't use your loo, to use the nearby pub.

Coffeethrowtrampbitch · 17/01/2017 19:29

This thread is horrible. I'm on immunosuppressants and wash my hands constantly, after toilet, before eating, after feeding pets, after going out.

It takes a few seconds and keeps me safe, why on earth would you not do it, are people really that short of time?

It does work, as my family of 5 had norovirus and everyone was sick except me, and I cleared up more bodily fluids than anyone else. But I washed my hands afterwards!

GunnyHighway · 17/01/2017 19:53

I don't piss on my hands.

BartholinsSister · 17/01/2017 19:57

Perhaps they have clean penises.

BarryTheKestrel · 17/01/2017 20:11

I carry a small bottle of hand-wash that I'm not allergic to with me everywhere. I get some funny looks getting out my own soap in public toilets but I'd rather do that than not wash my hands or have a horrible allergic reaction (think marble sized blisters all over my hands). Overwashing my sensitive hands does cause them to dry and crack, but that's what hard-core hand cream is for.

walkinginto2017 · 17/01/2017 20:18

I actually can't believe some of the responses on this thread. Grim.

I'm a front line hospital worker (with very dry and bleeding hands from the washing) - and I do lots of hands on examinations of the face.

Would you be happy for me to wee and poo and not wash my hands and then touch you all over your mouth and face. Thought not.

MeadowHay · 17/01/2017 20:21

walking Exactly! DH is also a front-line hospital worker (though not a member of clinical staff) and he has to constantly wash his hands but there are moisturising creams in the hospital next to most of the sinks so he regularly moisturises as well to keep his skin half-decent. My dad also used to be a clinical member of staff in a hospital. Doubt these people who don't wash their hands would be happy to be examined/treated by staff who don't bother washing theirs. I just can't get over how awfully selfish some people are that they are quite happy to pass on all that might be lurking in their germs to everyone that might be unfortunate enough to cross their path rather than take 2 minutes to wash their hands.

OhtoblazeswithElvira · 17/01/2017 22:06

Do you non-washers then go on and cook a meal / bake a cake for the school fair/ chop some fruit for a play date with your manky unwashed hands?

DrizzleHair · 17/01/2017 22:11

Yep, I'm never ill!
2 sick days in last 7 years, both due to bleed/pain in early pregnancy 4 years ago.

Nothing since. I'd love a nice cold to keep me off work for a few days but it never happens

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