For finding this hilarious

[bibbetybobbetybooo]

I'm in bed, not very well and I'm listening to my husband freaking out over getting our child ready for school.

He hasn't organised anything.

I put out the uniform/coat/shoes/bag/food etc and all he has to do is take our child to school.

He's not left enough time to sort everything. The car needs de-icing and he's having a meltdown.

Now, I know it's not funny for our child as they have to deal with Daddy but what I'm finding funny is that he's finally getting his comeuppance.

He's never had to do that much until recently. I've been the one taking our children to school; I get everything ready; I do the shopping etc etc
He's pretty much been able to pootle on with his own life and -oooh look, I can be fun Dad and pretend like I'm doing stuff for a few minutes.

He's now having to actual do the normal stuff. The boring stuff. The responsible stuff. And I'm thoroughly enjoying it. What I'm not enjoying is the teenage-style whinging and bitching that he is finding it hard and the fact that he expects a massive round of applause or some kind of fucking medal for, well...parenting!

I'd have asked for a cuppa too
It's effing hilarious, would be quietly snickering to myself too. OH took my DD to school this morning (his SD) but I couldn't put her through him trying to do her hair, that would be unduly cruel (to her), he is more than capable of everything else though which is much less funny for me

Hope you feel better soon Op milk it for as long as possible

I don't get why women have to teach men what jobs need doing around the house. No one teaches women what to do!

It makes me mad that men are deemed incapable of understanding the concept of having to food shop, wash clothes , tidy up , get kids to school etc. And it makes me even madder that when they try to do any of the above they fuck it up!

They don't go into work and jab mindlessly at the keyboard hoping it will work, they use it properly and effectively, they should be able to do the same with a washing machine.

They know how much time to leave to get to a football match so can do the same to get kids to school .

They can wash a car so should be able to wipe a kitchen and bathroom down.

So the man works hard, and is often away supporting the family. Something goes wrong and he doesn't quite get the stuff that he normally doesn't do quite right and he's berated.

Suppose something happened and he was unable to work. Is the wife instantly able to get a job on a similar wage? If not, why has she not been doing something to make sure she can?

You've helped him to be useless at some stuff

How does that work, viz a viz another adult?

No-one actually teaches mothers how to get kids out to school in the morning, you know.

*So the man works hard, and is often away supporting the family. Something goes wrong and he doesn't quite get the stuff that he normally doesn't do quite right and he's berated.

Suppose something happened and he was unable to work. Is the wife instantly able to get a job on a similar wage? If not, why has she not been doing something to make sure she can?*

I'm on a higher wage than he is! Im just ill.
Surely he should be capable of putting a child in a car and driving somewhere? It's not like he hasn't done it before...

He didn't have to get ANYTHING ELSE ready. He just had a meltdown because he hadn't left enough time and was pissed off that he had to actually do something for our children on a school day when he can usually take his own sweet merry time (he doesn't have to start work at any specific time usually

And yes - I haven't 'taught', 'helped', 'allowed' or 'made' him useless. He's done a damn good job of it on his own. I've had to learn this parenting malarkey too and he's been here the whole time. He can do things but he basically chooses not to. He ignores things and knows that eventually I'll do them as otherwise things just won't happen.
Yes - that's not good and yes, we've had many many discussions about it.

But I won't be blamed for his ineptitude. I'm not his mother.

I'd be laughing too. I had food poisoning a few months ago (luckily on a weekend) and Dp had to do everything. He managed very well until our son had an explosive nappy and wouldn't stay still for him to clean it. I did manage a chuckle in between bouts of sickness. Why is it my job to make sure he knows what to do? No one showed me how to keep house, this isn't the 1950s.

Also when I have a cold, Dp has a cold and baby has a cold, I still have to do everything so yeah op stay in bed!

Get well soon op, but yeah milk this for all it's worth!

OP - I gather he's not usually under any time pressure in the morning, but presumably sometimes he has to be somewhere on time - business meeting, flight etc. Under those circumstances in cold weather would he leave time to de-ice the car?

If no, then he's a generally disorganised person who needs to get his act together. If yes, then not managing to do it for a school run is just fuckwittery.

Bibbety I too also live with a 1950s man child and sometimes it is just too much to take. All he has to do in the week is wash the dishes and take the bins out and he still expects to be applauded when he can be arsed to do them. He has always been this way, when he lived himself he cleaned once every 6 months and expected me to be amazed at his slightly less manky flat.
Enjoy his floundering, I would with mine. And also get well soon, just not too soon

Delighting in someone else's struggle - your partner, no less - isn't something I find funny. If this was written from the other perspective, it certainly wouldn't be. Sorry.

jings

You married him knowing what he was like. What does that say about you?

Heh. MrNC does huge amounts at home, handles bedtime with aplomb, but is just useless in the morning. The few times he has taken the kids in (because he is a decent human who understands the concept of me being ill/working early) it has been quite hilarious according to my lodger's reports (she happily skips away from us every morning!). though nowadays ds(8) talks him through it and tells him "It's 8.13! You have to leave the house in two minutes!".

He can tell similar tales of the first time I dropped him at work, drove off, and had no end of hassle getting petrol and to the shops etc. We both laugh a lot.

We aint married!

But I do take your point, I did think that when he actually owned a house he would want to take more care and pride in it than a rented flat, it seems he just has a high tolerance to dirt and mess just like the rest of his clan

Not everyone chooses their parter for their housekeeping abilities, user. The human race would probably be a lot smaller if we did!

I'm finding it more hilarious that some people seem to equate 'crap father / husband' to 'still the woman's fault'

Op yanbu - leave him to it!