Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To secretly hope he doesn't pass?

31 replies

Slimjimeeeeee · 15/01/2017 01:00

I feel like a horrible person saying this -I probably am one!

But recently started a new job and there's a jumped-up 18 year old who started too, on a different scheme. He's ok but very very confident - to the point of being annoying! He leaves when he wants, sometimes at 3, he choose to work from home etc etc - decisions we can't really do at our level, but he frequently takes the piss and pushes it!

He's very flirty with another girl I joined with and it's all a bit much sometimes - save it for lunchtime, sometimes it's like a school playground/common room. It rankles because others in our (v professional) workplace seem to find him/the behaviour hilarious and let it slide, without speaking to him about it!

My main point is that he's due to take a big exam soon, which he's already taken twice before and failed. Much as I don't want to wish him badly, he's had so many opportunities and hasn't really worked hard enough so far for it. If he fails, that's it for the job. Is it wrong that I'm not necessarily desperate for him to pass (and stay)? Blush

OP posts:
longestlurkerever · 15/01/2017 10:22

I think some of what you are saying is fair but some does come across as a bit resentful tbh "jumped up" is a horrible phrase that suggests people should know their place and nothing wrong with being assertive when it comes to requesting flexible working

JessieMcJessie · 15/01/2017 10:41

RachelRagged

Also, and I might start my own thread, WHY do graduates get fast track to managerial positions and the perks that come wiith it ? Not all of us went to Uni and can only dream of such a stating position.

Er, because they got better qualifications which allowed them to go to University where they spent at least three years, you know, learning stuff? And accruing debt that now needs to be paid back.

Can't believe you need to have that explained to you.

pluck · 15/01/2017 11:31

I think the only thng you're unreasonable about is focussing on him rather than on the management culture which is promoting disregard for timekeeping and professional behaviour in the office (the flirting you mentioned). Is management genuinely encouraging a time-waster who will only have to be carried if he gets a permanent job? Confused

DailyFail1 · 15/01/2017 17:12

Jessie Graduates don't get a fast track to management in reality. They will get a scheme that guarantees them a minimum level of management position after it finishes (2-3 years). Non-graduates can also progress as far (or further) in that time-frame if they are commited. For example I'm an investment analyst. Instead of uni I worked in various boutique hedgefunds in a very admin way that allowed me to experience everything. By the time I was 25 I was doing the job that graduates my age were just getting off their schemes, and now I am several management grades higher (working on my mba now for CEO track).

OhisHOME · 15/01/2017 18:37

I feel your pain I've worked with boys like this who have the charm & can wriggle out of things with a smile while other workers (usually older women) mother them and coax them along.

JessieMcJessie · 15/01/2017 23:23

DailyFail1, it was not me who made the statement about fast-tracked graduates, it was RachelRagged.

All I did was explain to her the bleeding obvious reason why (in jobs where this is the case) graduates might progress faster and/or start on higher salaries than non graduates.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page