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To think I should be allowed to collect my children

43 replies

Buzzalot · 13/01/2017 11:07

We live 8 miles from the school down mostly down a one track lane. 95% of the kids at the school live nearby and walk

The road was treacherous this morning. Ice and snow, no grit, driving 5mph and trying to avoid the deep ditches.

The snow is still coming down heavily, ice is getting worse.

I just called the school to say I want to come and collect the children before it gets worse and I can't realistically drive on the road. They said no Hmm and I should just leave earlier. The other kids would be annoyed if mine went home early and if I managed to get them in I can get them home, despite the worsening weather

AIBU to just drive to the school and ask for my kids?

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QuarterMileAtATime · 13/01/2017 11:58

I would call again and ask if this is the Headteacher's position. If it is somebody working in the school office, they may speak with authority, but you may just be getting their opinion on what they think you should do. Imagine if you have highlighted that you think it will be more dangerous later, and then something happens after having listened to them and not collected your children earlier. A Headteacher will probably use this sort of foresight.

Didiplanthis · 13/01/2017 12:00

Just go and get them. Like you I live rurally down a single track road and couldn't get mine in until 10.30 today as the ice was just awful my kids school was fine and just said only come if you think you can safely and would have no issue with an early pick up. They know some children live off the main roads.

rubyshoes3 · 13/01/2017 12:03

I had the same problem with school when my son fractured his right arm. I asked the reception in the morning if I could take him home for lunch so I could help him eat as he was really struggling to use his left hand, they agreed.
When I turned up at lunch time deputy was at reception and she refused to send my son out saying once he is in school they can not let him out.
It felt so weird having someone tell me that I could not have my child.
I wonder if it is some rules they have to follow.

PinkBunnyOnesieOnOrder · 13/01/2017 12:12

Do not ask
Do not show them photos

They are your children.

Go & collect them when you want to. Any resistance, just tell them not to be so ridiculous. YOU are their parent, not the Receptionist.

PinkBunnyOnesieOnOrder · 13/01/2017 12:13

RubyShoes. OMG - if she said that t me she'd be one sorry mare.

GreenTureen · 13/01/2017 12:14

she refused to send my son out saying once he is in school they can not let him out

That's awful. Did you complain/insist?

neveradullmoment99 · 13/01/2017 12:16

What???
They are your children.
Of course you can take them out of school!!!!

Notthisnotthat · 13/01/2017 12:16

Children living rurally often get let away from schools near me, pupils within walking distance tend to have to stay.

diddl · 13/01/2017 12:25

Hopefully you are on the way to collect them, Op.

It's ridulous them saying that you can't collect them when you are trying to ensure that the journey will be as safe as possible for everyone.

You won't be bothering to take them in another time, will you?

Foureyesarebetterthantwo · 13/01/2017 12:28

I would let them register after lunch, then go and get them, take a photo of the snow and have a word with the headteacher on your way out (with the children of course).

SantaClausMortificado · 13/01/2017 12:42

but I don't think they can keep them if I want them?!

this made me chuckle. I love that expression "don't think they can keep them" like you children are a couple of lawnmowers or something you want back!

I agree that you should just go and get them. Icy treacherous roads are no joke.

or you could phone back and tell whoever answers the phone that they will have to look after your children tonight as you won't be able to get there so THEY can KEEP them

rubyshoes3 · 13/01/2017 12:55

Pinkbunny Greentureen They let him leave with me after my son burst in to tears, but I was told that I could not take him out again and I must come to school at lunch time and help him eat his lunch in school.
I wish I did complain but I was so shocked that school could keep my son. It was the first time anyone had tried to withhold my child from me.

Love51 · 13/01/2017 12:56

They don't have to, and probably won't, authorise the absence. That doesn't mean they can keep your children!

notgotanewname · 13/01/2017 13:03

You say you live in North Essex. So do I and there's no snow at all!

januarybooze · 13/01/2017 13:16

I do understand this. But there's no snow here either so you shouldn't have much trouble.

mishmash1979 · 13/01/2017 13:40

Rubyshoes that is disgusting. Children are allowed to go home for lunch, it's an option on all local authority school admission forms. My son is in yr 3 and has always come home for lunch and my other son did for 3 days after hVing dental work as he could only eat soft food e.g. Soup etc

GabsAlot · 13/01/2017 14:52

the snow has been hit and miss all over essex we had some in the south someone up the road had none

doesnt mean op is lying

FilledSoda · 13/01/2017 15:32

This is why I'm careful not to phrase a statement as a question out of politeness, that way the answer won't be no.

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