To get annoyed sometimes

[Rollonbedtime7pm]

I have 3 children, all planned and wanted and loved.

But.

I hate getting up early and been woken in the night - baby (who usually sleeps well) was up for 2 hours in the night and then woke us at 6 .
My house is a total mess.
The older kids have times where they nag and complain and drive me crazy.
Running your life around the school run is annoying.
I have a leftover pregnancy belly and am too knackered to do anything about it.
Etc
Etc
Etc

I hate it when people say "ooh cherish every moment" or "least you can have kids" - of course I am grateful for them and would never not have had them but doesn't mean some bits aren't total shit!!

Just having a tired moan I guess but still, AIBU?!

You are 100% right of course, Cakes.

I think there is a distinction to be made - it's not about not loving and needing your children, but rather not always loving the mothering experience.

It can be very hard, sometimes, for some people.

There's a danger that if people are silenced on this, it isolates those who are struggling - makes them feel guilty, like they're alone, incapable, deficient, even causing actual harm to their children, etc. It's a mental health issue, I think. It's important to discuss it, and share experiences. Especially given that many people don't have real life friends and family they can discuss these things with, as opposed to generations gone by.

I'm so sorry for your loss, and for what you're going through with your niece. It's unimaginable. 💐

Sorry for your loss Cakes but I agree it's important to discuss this as not doing so can result in parents feeling guilty and isolated (which happens frequently enough as it is).

YANBU op, I feel like you do the majority of the time. My 4 year old can be an absolute horror at times and so can my 19month old. Yes to them being insufferably selfish and intolerable at times. Sometimes I feel suffocated, but the sweet little moments make up for it. My youngest has just given me a rendition of twinkle twinkle little star and my heart melted so all is forgotten.