She is yes a random Gumtree. We started the househare a few months ago and two months later her boyfriend moved in. When he started to talk a lot with us she said to him that their conversations were private and we were not friends (me and the other tenant) but simply housemates as she did not want to cross boundaries as apparently she has already had issues in the past with other housemates.
If the rent is none of his issue why do we included him in our housemeetings. He was included because she did not want to take responsibility for his mess and preferred us to talk directly to him instead of us talking to her. During the last meeting my other flatmate raised the issue of the two months bills late. She did not say at any point she would prefer us not to talk about these issues if he was present in the future and this should only be with the three of us. So therefore I never assumed this was something inappropriate.
My boyfriend has some really strong ideas and when he stays at home the first thing I told him was, this is their house so please do not bother anybody. I even went further and said that if any of his comments or behaviour was inappropriate or made one of my flatmates uncomfortable I would not have him at home again. She let his presence create all this drama, so yes she needs to assume the responsibility.
My other flatmate has disagreed with his presence since the beginning and had to call her one month after he moved in because she went on holiday and he stayed at home, my other flatmate did not even know he was her boyfriend, so when she realised she was at home alone with someone she did not know even who he was, she asked him to leave and he refused. She had to call our flatmate to tell her she was uncomfortable with him at home without her and give her no choice and call him and tell him to find a place until she was back. Things have been rough with them and my other flatmate since. Things did not improve when my other flatmate learned she had given him a key of the house without even asking us.
There are been some different type of issues that have led to this my decision to tell her if she did not move I would have to call our landlord and let her decide. Cleaning has been a nightmare, she made a lot of remarks to the other tenant saying she needed to clean after herself better. The issue is, she believes that a house can be kept clean without rota if everybody cleans after themselves or when they see thing are dirty, obviously I saw the problem coming and when the two others argued about it, I said let's do a cleaning rota!! All agreed, I did it on the computer and weeks after the same issue again people where not cleaning after themselves enough and she said "I am just not very good at following a rota", when I told her I never saw her once cleaning her rota.
No I don't really want him 
, and I believe that a couple needs their privacy. I don't know of any couple sharing if they can afford to rent on their own and if she feels uncomfortable with him speaking to me moving will make their life easy. And as I said he has no issues with money, he is looking to rent in a very expensive area.
My opinion is that they argue a lot because they have different hobbies and lifestyles and I believe she is scared to move in with him knowing there relationship is wobbly (I believe they like each other very much and can make it work). So having it at home is safe, the home is very good and not expensive for the area, and if they broke up he is the one that will need to pack up, she has the security to be at home already.
For me one of the rules of the househaring is that if you are going to preach you then need to be the one setting up the example!
I don't feel proud of the manner I addressed the issue yesterday I give you all that and I completely know that I cannot put her out of the house like that but yes I can ask her. She refused! I said then I would have to challenge the agreement of the landlord and then she agreed. Why do you think so?