My six month old dd had what we now know to be a febrile convulsion on Monday morning. I called 999 who sent a paramedic crew. It was terrifying, especially as the ambulance had to come from far away and so took a long time to get there. I thought she was going to die. I'm a single parent and she's my only child so was by myself and it was additionally stressful not to have anyone to go downstairs to meet the crew and show them where the flat is (it's top floor and not easy to find the door) so I had to watch helplessly out of the window while they tried to find us (they couldn't hear me banging on it to show them where we were)
They stayed about an hour doing various tests, monitoring her etc and trying to get her high temp down which it eventually did a bit until they were willing to leave and advised me to see my gp asap which I did, a couple of hours later.
Gp checked ears, throat, lymph nodes, temp and all were normal so she said it was probably a virus and no treatment was necessary. I was relieved and thought it was over as she seemed well again, and remained so all day until at 6pm it happened again. I called 999 again, had to go through all the questions all over again and again the ambulance was miles away so took ages to arrive. Had same situation where I could see them not being able to find us, going into wrong gate etc, it was like a nightmare.
They took us to a&e where we waited 7 hours until finally after seeing a&e doctor and paediatric doctors she was admitted to children's ward. They took a urine sample (which took me 5 hours of trying to get a wee from stark naked baby into plastic bowl in a&e finally managing to get one solitary drop after three wees and a poo landing on me) and dipstick showed possible UTI. They wanted to do lab test to confirm but not enough urine at that point.
Spent night on ward, poor baby connected to monitor that sounded an alarm every time her heart rate went over 170, which was every 5 mins, she was very hot and crying all night. In the morning managed to get a bigger urine sample and a few hours later they confirmed kidney infection and prescribed antibiotics and let us go.
AIBU to think that treatment was unnecessarily delayed by a urine test not being done sooner? If we hadn't gone to hospital then it wouldn't have been done and diagnosed at all and there could have been serious complications, even kidney failure.
I'm struggling to deal with it to be honest. Even though the worst is over and the outcome was good in the end (as long as the antibiotics work as expected) I still feel absolutely terrified, as though it's still happening. I can't relax and have to check her every five mins and I'm setting my alarm through the night to check her also. I feel so scared that something might happen again. Not necessarily this again but just something! And worse things happen, children get more ill than this! I don't know how people cope. I don't know what to do about how I'm feeling - do you think I should talk to the gp about this? Not necessarily in an accusatory way but maybe it will help somehow? Please be kind in your responses, I'm really feeling dreadful, just can't shake off this terrified feeling and keep crying.. of course I'm relieved that dd seems better but I still can't seem to feel better myself.
Tldr - dd got ill, could have been diagnosed and treated quicker, seems better now, I'm really not.