Travel time aibu?

[Foxysoxy01]

A very simple aibu!

Wibu to expect people to travel 40 mins (18 miles) from a church wedding service to a reception venue?

An activity for guests? Definitely tell them that in advance as imagine lots may be put off.

Oh and no parking at church other than for actual wedding.

Yeah it's not really what your thinking with the activity but don't really want to say what it is.

I will of course explain in invites.

Our wedding was the same as OP. Didn't seem a big deal for the guests. If the reception venue is special (as opposed to sentimentally special IYSWIM) most guests will be happy to do it.

Either way, it's your wedding so you should do what you'll remember as making a special day when you look back on it.

My church was 35 mins from the reception.

We had coaches pick people up at 4 key locations to take them to the church.

Coaches also took people from the church to reception.

After reception coaches took people back to the original 4 locations and the church (where some had left cars).

Anyone staying the night drove but was provided detailed directions.

We had nominated ushers in charge of/hosting the coaches. There was also a glass of bubbly to keep everyone entertained on the way to the reception.

It all worked very smoothly. We put a note in with the invitation for people to retirn with all the relevant info and boxes to tick re pick up/drop off.

As a non car owner, it's really annoying when you have to travel between venues in a rural area. I've been at weddings where hosts provide a minibus or arrange a lift share.

Apologies for my last post asking lots of questions you had answered - it was a massive cross post

Hmm... throwing in the word 'activity' is really not making me warn to this at all not that you are inviting me, I know.

activity was a bit of a stretch really it's more like a boat trip with tea and cake before pub type thing.

Thing being with coaches, you can't do what I always do when going to weddings, that is "bung it in the boot of your car"

.... coat needed for cold Church, not for Reception
.... don't need the gift in the Church, do want it in Reception
.... glam high heeled shoes for the ceremony and photos, something more practical for the rest of the day
..... not sure when you'll get to eat? - emergency rations in the boot of the car

etc. etc.

Or is that just me ?

I don't think YABU ... I went to two weddings last year with similar distances. As long as people have notice. Could you do a pick up from a hotel for those staying over so that they can leave their car at the hotel - and then again to drop them off after?

I have done it where we all started from the wedding reception (large hotel) where we were all staying and were driven in a coach to the church about 30mins away then back again. This was in Ireland, so I can see why they did it cos the church was her childhood one and the hotel was the only one big enough in the area to hold all the guests.

Think you have to lay on transport, could you make it fun, like a red bus etc?

If the hotel is where most people will stay, I'd do a coach from the hotel to the church then back. Most people will try to check in before the wedding, so that's where they will be travelling from.