To think parents shouldnt apply for jobs on behalf of their kids....

[Hannah4banana]

I voluntarily started and run a Facebook page that helps people find local vacancies and employers also post there too. We hit over 40k members this month and I love reading the success stories , it's really worthwhile. The number of mum's mainly that apply on behalf of their kids is mental! Is it just me or should you be encouraging your teenagers to get out and find a wee job for themselves.
Earlier today a mum tagged her daughter in a job advert and the daughter replied with "send my cv" to her mum!
If I was actually recruiting for any of the jobs that would be an instant cv in the bin.
I worked from when I was 15 and always approached local businesses with my crap wee c.v and talked to the manager myself. Always shows initiative. One other guy asked in a pm if his mum could attend an interview for him ? Wtf!

Not sure it's a new thing: have heard plenty of stories from my parents', IL's and grandparents' generation of parents fixing a job for their children either directly or by speaking to a relative. Am pretty sure my FIL got dh one of his first jobs.

And then there is my MIL's story about how her stepfather basically conducted her RADA interview, until the interviewer said "how about letting the girl speak"?

But whether this was acceptable in the 1940s or not, I really don't think it's a way of working that is suited to the world of today: these days so much depends on initiative and being able to present yourself rather than being nice and conscientious and keeping quiet when the grown-ups speak.

Our dd had to go and get her own job and so will ds. Even the school didn't help ds with his work experience: it was supposed to be part of the experience to go out and ask around.

I'very worked for the last 10 years and my mum has never once applied for a job for I have always applied for my own jobs and got off my ass and handed out my own CV's how are kids suppose to learn to be independent if mummy and daddy are always right behind them wipping their ass for them.

My brother was coerced by my mum into applying for a job at the local supermarket while he was in the sixth form. He applied (himself) and was told they had nothing for him at the moment. A few weeks later, my mum was shopping there and saw an advertisement for part-time staff so she asked them why they were advertising when my bro had been turned down. They went and checked their file and told her they had nothing that fitted my brother's "special requests." She was baffled and asked my bro if he'd made any special requests. Turns out he'd written on the application that he could only work on Tuesdays from 4-6 and not if he had a football match and that he couldn't handle raw meat, raw fish, and several other specifications! My mum was mortified and nearly killed him.

lockedoutofMN hahaha lmao I nearly chocked on my tea at what your brother put on his application form that's class I do feel a bit sorry for your poor mum though.

I work in the office for a postgraduate course (PGCE) and you'd be amazed how many times we speak to parents regarding prospective applications and sometimes even current students regarding things like attendance or essay submissions. This is more unusual though. But parents ringing up to find out about the course is really common.

YANBU. This drives me crackers!!! I'm so glad the xmas temp season is over. Our last bout of recruitment was interesting. I'll probably get flamed but my experience of this has been that it is predominately on behalf of sons who are too busy to apply., not really had it on behalf of daughters? Even had phonecalls complaining/shouting from parents that their offspring have to work xmas/had to get up so early etc etc!?!

Carol Vordeman got her job on countdown as a result of a letter written by her mum.

I think people with disabilities or special needs are a different case, and wouldn't be considered helicopter parents/useless kids.

I work with a young man who has cerebral palsy. He is excellent at his job and very intelligent and independent and ambitious, but on a physical basis he does need a carer or support worker around and his dad often brings him to work or comes into work with him to meet his access needs. It's a company specifically about disability so there are a few employees who have their own support worker who is basically with them all day. But for sure he applied himself and wrote the application himself and all of that.

I saw a FB exchange on a similar page. Someone put up a similar note, and some woman went mental at her saying how her daughter had severe communication issues and if she (the mum) didn't apply the daughter would never get a job. And then went on to say how the daughter was so fantastic at hospitality work

DH helped with my son's CV. He has LD and his English is so poor he would never stand a chance if he had handed his own CV in.

The jobs he applies for don't really require him to have good English skills. The deal was that he writes it all out first and then dh would go through it with him.

I see no problems with looking over your children's CVs as many older adults like other people to check their CVover, but I wouldn't actually apply for a job on their behalf.

My son has needed a big push to start job hunting. He lost a lot of confidence when he was bullied so when I look for jobs for myself I keep an eye out on ones he might like as well. He needs us to help more than other people his age usually would but I draw the line at applying for him and actually going to the interview!

U2 but helping with a CV is perfectly normal - everyone has a fresh pair of eyes check a newly drafted CV over, LD or not (don't they?).

That is an entirely different ball game to applying for the job and then a completely different person turning up for an interview (in this case a girl with pre-stated severe communication difficulties being sent for a role where good communication is a key part of the job)