Ok so me and DH are at loggerheads over this.
It's my birthday in March and I'm organising a night out with friends. DH has 2 sisters and 2 brothers that are all married and I have one brother who is married.
DH has been encouraging a good relationship between us and one of his brothers and wife for about a year now and what has resulted is that I very much look at them as my friends aswell as family. I casually mentioned to DH that I was going to invite his brother and his wife and DH said you can't do that because my other siblings will be offended and it'll cause a huge argument. I pointed out that we have nothing in common with the rest which is why we can go months not talking whereas we get on great and regularly see his brother, wife and kids. I'm not even inviting my own brother and SIL because they won't get on and gel with my friends. I really don't see the problem at all but anytime I try and bring it up he tells me that I can do what I want but it will cause a massive argument. He doesn't seem to understand that they keep asking me what I'm doing for my birthday as they are probably expecting to be invited as they know my friends aswell and it'll probably cause bad feeling when they realise their not invited. AIBU? Is DH?